Monday....withdrawal symptoms starting..

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Monday....withdrawal symptoms starting..
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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 4:48pm

It's Monday and I managed to avoid the office for most of the day....was in for about an hour (ex-MM wasn't there).

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Mon, 11-09-2009 - 5:17pm
Hi Mickey,

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 02-28-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 12:58am

I had to respond to your question of abandonment issues. That is something I have realized about myself. I come from the typical abusive (every type imaginable)

 

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 7:30pm
'Maybe you still get something out of seeing him. Only you will know what it is.
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Tue, 11-10-2009 - 10:49pm

It's okay, Mickey...you can admit your feelings here.


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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 11:51am

Hi Mickey,


I don’t think you were rambling.


It sounds like from your description that the spot light is on your xAP at work. I know it’s scary to work without your safety net/mentor. When I read your reply I was thinking, maybe it’s Mickey’s time to shine. It’s hard to stand out and shine when you’re under the wing of someone like your xAP.


Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 12:02pm

Hi Kristin,


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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 03-22-2009
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 12:45pm
Your post on abandonment really struck a cord with me. The thought of xAP not caring for me or thinking of me or, even worse, viewing me with disgust or revulsion has always been difficult for me. I know it played a part in my breaking NC the last time after 5 weeks. I needed his assurance that he didn't see me as a horrible, defective person. I'd seen posts on another board by male WSs and the appalling way they described their former APs literally turned my stomach and made me so sad. I felt I NEEDED to know if he had changed his opinion of me now that we were not in contact. In the end, of course, it was a mistake but it points out that when these issues are not dealt with, they can/will continue to cause problems.
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Registered: 08-15-2009
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 3:46pm

Empower,


I just responded in great length to your post and it didn't save it when I went to publish it....aarrgghh....I don't have the energy to do it again right now.


So I'll just say that I think you are right in most of what you say.