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| Sun, 04-24-2005 - 5:39pm |
I guess this is mostly for Free, since she knows me here, but I must say, I really enjoy reading replies from Lealavender also.
Anyway, My boss/friend finally acknowledged that we had "situation" between the 2 of us that needed discussing in order to continue our true friendship. Turns out, she was very hurt that I left her in the dark about my A. She says that if I had only told her while it was going on, she would've been there for me and is positive it never would've gone that far. I tried telling her that NOTHING anyone said or did was gonna stop me while I was in the midst of it!
She continued to ask me questions, and I gave her straightforward, honest answers. Apparently XOM's W still wants to have lunch with my boss/friend tomorrow so I told her that it's up to her if she thinks his W should be left in the dark to the real "truth" or if she thinks she should tell her.(About our continued contact, after she thought it had ended.) My friend said that noone deserves to be left in the dark, so Im thinking she's gonna tell her a bunch of stuff that is probably going to rock their boat at home again.
I told my friend that my sense of right from wrong with this whole thing, is severely warped, and I trust her to do what she thinks is right.
I'm wondering what I should expect from all the parties involved here. I know XMM is gonna feel like I "sold him out" but I don't care. Do you think he's gonna call and get mad at me? What about the W? Have any idea what I should be expecting from her? I think this is gonna be another d-day all over for her.
I must say that I'm glad this is all in the open now. I have nothing to hide from anyone anymore and that feels good! I will not tell another lie about my A to ANYONE! IT's over and I'm very happy about it!!!

You're definitely right about thinking there was nothing your boss/friend would have been able to say to change your behavior/mind. I know that is true regarding my situation with my EXMM, AND currently true with my friend's situation. No matter what I say, she will feel what she feels and see it with blinders on for awhile..guess that's the nature of it.. I'm glad you had the talk though with your boss/friend. That will make things less difficult there. I'm not sure what to expect from your EXMM..or his wife. If he contacts you I wouldn't give him too much time to talk. I guess I figure if it's over he will need to deal with the consequences too, without your help. Cold I know..but if he wants his marriage to work out- he will have to do it on his own. Let us know if you hear anything.
Pal
What ever happens between XMM and his wife is there busness and there problem and there is no reason for you to have anything to do with it or them, if one or the other of them calls or visits NO COMMENT.
Of the three people your friend is the only one you need to concern yourself with and you have done the right thing is giving her the true facts so she does not get twisted info and half truths that would have only confused her, now she is equiped for that lunch.
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Free