more difficult than I thought

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Registered: 03-02-2008
more difficult than I thought
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Sat, 09-26-2009 - 8:03pm

I'm single, he's married.


The affair I've had with

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Sat, 09-26-2009 - 8:36pm

Hi xy,

welcome to EAS. I was single with a MM also. I applaud you for making the smart decision to end it; please don't waste any more of your time with a MM. It will take up too much of your mental 'real estate', and prevent you from eventually meeting a SM that would be a good fit (speaking from experience). The first few weeks are not easy, but time definitely helps heal the wounds and move on.

A few suggestions to break it off - the preferred choice is to just 'disappear' and not respond to any of his attempts to contact you (No contact, or NC) but if you're worried that he won't 'get it', you could always write him and say you met someone else and feel your relationship would no longer be appropriate (how can he argue with that). Good luck and hang in there, be strong, we're here for you.

big hugs!!!

trixie xo



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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 09-30-2009 - 11:25am

hey- iixy


i'm catching up on some older posts that I somehow missed and i'd like to welcome you, belatedly, to EAS.


I hope that today finds you still in NC.


As i've posted here, there are no rules in an A and that includes an ending. and they all end- either one gets 'bored' or makes excuses as to why they cannot change where they are- well, those excuses were the reality all along...or they disappear....or they tell the other partner that they want to end...or there is the volcanic visciousness of a d-day.

CL-Lovely Starr

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