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| Tue, 12-28-2004 - 5:17pm |
Well today has been kind of weird. xMM stopped by today, but it wasn't like normal. He was a wreck. He looked like he'd been crying, he was shaking and said he was sick. He told me that his W had him up until 3:30 in the morning with the calander and cell phone bills out asking him questions about things that apparently don't add up. He said he didn't know why he stopped (again) that he's looking for advice. What the hell kind of advice am I supposed to give him??? I'm part of the problem here!!! Welll then he went on to tell me how sorry he is that he ever got me into this and he wishes we had only had sex and then ended it so he wouldn't have all these emotions for me. Well sorry sucker, it didn't happen that way. He literally told me "I am so f****d up right now". Well I felt really bad for him. I know he wasn't doing too well so I gave him a hug, but then I had to go to work.
While I was at work his W called me. She said "I want the exact date you decided to f**k my husband." I told her that she should talk to him about it, if he wants to make things work that he should be answering her questions for her. She said "he is, I just want your side." I told her I wouldn;t discuss it with her while I was at work, that I would call her later, and she said "you do that!" Then she told me that I threw myself at him all summer long. Which is not true, HE PERSUED ME!!! But anyway, my question is, Should I call her back like I told her I would, or should I just let it go????
It's been a weird day!!! I really don;t know what's going on with them. Or him for that matter!!! Need advice!! Thanks!

by all means, do not call this woman back! She will just drag you back into the situation that you are trying to remove yourself from and heal from.
Don't let her drag you into the drama.
I have had my MM's W call me plenty of times asking me for information.
I think anything she wants to know should come from her H. He is the one with the answers, not you. Leave this between the two of them.
Hugs to you.
Pal,
I wouldn't call her back. I think we all understand that need to "know", but the info should come from him & not you. Is she calling your cell or your office line? Can you get your # changed?
Diva
Pal
NO, and if MR Nutless comes to your door you should refuse to spare him one word either, If you talk to these people there never going to go away.
You don't need this anymore.
Free
Ok, actually I agree with EVERYONE here!!!! I am not going to call her back!! Diva, she has ALL my numbers because we were good friends before all this. But this time she called me on my work number, which cannot be changed! FREE, I'm sure you are so sick of hearing all this crap from me! You are completely correct, I don't need this anymore!! It's almost New years right? Looking forward to letting this all go!!!! Thanks for all your advice!
Pal
pal .... if I were you I would never talk to her again.
stop putting yourself through hell. if she calls say "i am done with this situation, do not contact me". Then hang up. No "goodbye" no arguing. Hang up after a statement of truth.
stop talking to that man as well. you are letting him lean on you - when he screwed you over many times.
he told you on thanksgiving he'd be over to 'be' with you for good and then hide from you for days. he's staying with her - letting all this happen.
stop it for your own good. lock your door and tell him YOU GET NO MORE FREE LOVE AND SUPPORT FROM THIS GOOD WOMAN! The gravey train is over baby - - now stop it! If I lived near you I'd kick you in the arse then give you a hug.
Love is wonderful, but not worth any of this.
good luck girlie.
gabby
Hiya Pal,
I'm going against the grain here and saying that I would most definitely call exMM's wife back especially if she was once a friend as you mentioned in your last post.
Not only will you be able to set the record straightfor her, but she can set the record straight for you about all the cackapookie MM has been feeding you, too. Talk about a golden opportunity for closure or what?!
I'd be firm and say something along the lines of `you get one phone call and this is it, let's remain calm & reasonable and let's be sure to ask each other everything we need to ask and then we can BOTH move on from this nightmare...' Also, if you phone, you are in control, it's your dime and you can hang up if the going gets too tough for you.
I have a strong feeling you won't have much trouble being firm about MM's dropping around to your place to offer you his poor, pitiful me fence-sitting act when you discover the extent of his duplicity direct from his wife's mouth to your ears.
Just my two pence, though.
Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie