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Registered: 11-21-2003
moving to this board from support board
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 3:30pm
OK now Its over... i was oficially dumped today

i am not ready to go into details yet, its only been a few hours but i will say that it is all my fault, i set out to sabatoge any chance we had yesterday, and i did it very well

but right now i feel like my heart is being ripped out of my chest, i truely loved this man



SB

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 3:41pm
Seeburg,

I'm sorry to hear that you were dumped today, I know how painful that is. When you are ready, please feel free to share. It might surprise you to learn that it helps to talk about these things, even if it's just posting on the board to strangers. We all know what the pain is like and we're here to help as best we can! Take care.

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 5:04pm
Welcome, honey. This is a great place to share things that you probably wouldn't feel comfortable talking about in the real world. We're all in various stages of experiencing the pain you described in your post. We're all grieving the "loss" of someone we loved, and because the loss came from an EMA, it's so difficult to find support. We are here for you. Whenever you feel the need to vent anger, pain, frustration, whatever - just throw it out on this board and one of us has probably been through something similar. Hang in there! Love, Mo.

mo 7-18-10

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Registered: 10-22-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 5:43pm
Seeburg: I usually post to the MAS board but I hopped over here to offer you my sympathy and support. My A ended last week. I knew it was coming, but it still seemed rather sudden. In my case XMM's W threatened him with divorce if he didn't cut contact with me. We'd been "caught" before but this time she is serious. She's also been harassing me by phone and email so XMM is doing this to protect me as well. I love this man with all my heart and soul. He feels the same way about me. He's my best friend. I'm his. And now we're out of each other's lives. We are working on our Ms and waiting to see what the future holds. I'm trying to see this in a positive light but right now it is darn near impossible. So what I'm trying to say in a rambling kind of way is I understand the utter devastation and loss you are feeling. I understand the broken heart. It has been nearly 10 days for me and I'm still feeling it. This is so, so hard. Please hang in there. Know that we're here for you. Take care of yourself.

(((HUGS)))

GB2

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 7:43pm
(((seeburg))) Just wanted to tell you how sorry I am that you are going through this. When and if you are ready to share your story, we will be here for support.

((hugs))

Circe

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 7:50pm

Dumped or given your freedom to pursue a relationship without lies and deceit at its core?


Your choice as to perception of this moment.


While you may momentarily hurt, you deserve 24.7 attention from an equally available partner.


jmo


cl-nre

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:20pm
HI SEE

Sorry your hurting, only time will really help, He did what he did because of his own agenda not because of you, so stop blaming yourself.

Here are some books that you may find usefull down the road when your up to it.

1,2 ,6 are highly recommended by people that have read them.

1)Not just friends : Author S Glass

2)After the affair : Author J Abrams

3)The Monogamy myth : P Vahaugn

4)Wild at heart : Author J Eldridge

5)Passionate marriage : Author Schnarch

6)Shattered vows : Author S Glass


http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0060928174/qid=1085102301/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/102-1001301-2960108?v=glance&s=books

Some if not all the books can be ordered from the above address if you cannot locate them locally.

They say that every journey begins with a first step and perhaps you have taken your first step today to a better future.

(((((SEE))))))

Free

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:36pm
i just wanted to say thank you to all of you, i can't really find the words to decribe the thoughts that are running through my head at this point. is this normal to fill like this is more than i can handle?

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:46pm
my perception at the moment is very cloudy, things just seem very unclear

would you believe that he called me after all of this? I think the reason was to see if I was ok, why else would he have called?

I have so many questions.....

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 05-13-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 2:08am
Seeburg,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to have to endure this pain. We all do here. I haven't been here long, but I have found that everyone here is very supportive. My XMM is still trying to get me to be with him and he won't listen when I tell him (over and over) that we aren't together any longer.

I wish you peace, happiness, and most of all love. Post often and read other's posts, this helps (it really does).

Forever,

Sunshine

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 2:35am
Hi See

Yes it is normal and as hard as it may be to believe it may very well get worse before it gets better, Sorry not trying to discourage you just fill you in, but it does get better, NC can help speed things up somewhat.

More then likely Xmm or MM whatever will try to hook up with you again, you will have to decide how many times your going to go through this, be warned each time can be harder then the time before.

Good decisions

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