I was just thinking about posting an APB for you. I've wondered how recovery is going for you. You will be in my thoughts as you begin your chemo. You sound so upbeat and positive that I just know you are going to recover fully in no time at all. As for the hair, I hate that for you. I would
"Perhaps you should just shave off your hair and beard before the chemo gets a chance to do its thing. Just saying..."
Oh crap...not the beard! Had not thought of that. LOL Well at least I know that it grows so fast it will be back in no time. The hair..eh, I do not really have that much left anyway...but it was fun to grow it out to remember my youth. :)
I too have been reading every day. And I tell you Alwayst, I love your contributions, and you have reason to be quiet and reflective. what you are going through is not easy. I have had you on my mind so much, and your posts are on my list to get through. It took me many days to organize my thoughts on the issues you are facing, as the resinate so deeply with me currently. Thanks for the thoughts! And glad you did not have to send the binocular police for me. Put on those dancing shoes...its time to celebrate!
Oh and the reason I sound so upbeat is cause for some reason I go away and hid when I'm feeling down...must be a dumb guy thing. What can I say sometimes I suppose I am just a JAM! :)
((BIG OL BEAR HUGS)) Much love my friend... peace&light Foggy
I am so glad you posted today. About that going away and hiding stuff, ever read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?" It's that CAVE thing that men do. :smileywink:
Hello Iddy and everyone else! I am sorry to take so long to reply, but as I stated in my monday post I had friends who came to town and whisked me away for a little bit of an escape. And I have spent the rest of the week trying like hell to make up some work from when I was out. Anyway, thanks to all for responding.
Iddy, I actually have never read that book, but know it gets referred to often in popular culture so maybe I should. I can give you my MPOV on this, however I have to say that with the caveat that I am probably from somewhere between Mars and Venus :) and tend to think about 80% of guys are just arrogant A holes who have completely latched onto the stigmas and attitudes of the patriarchal society we live in.
I do agree to some point. But for me it is never really to take a time-out from the problem at hand, but rather I retreat so that I might think the problem all the way through. I know that many times people tend to react quickly and often irrationally to a problem. I often take my time to think about a problem. Maybe it is my scientific and analytical mind that does the number on me (ha now that was a good pun). So although I can see the authors point reflected in the actions of other men, I really don't think so much that is what causes my "cave" moments. Often times around here someone will post something that I want to respond to...but I wont allow myself to respond right away. I think about what gets said and take the time to process it from my perspective...often times taking to long and then feeling silly about bumping up a thread to give my obtained results.
As for you not participating in musical mondays.... I am now very curious as to what you used to play? I know that it may be difficult to look back on those times, but music really is so so good for the soul. So I hope that someday, you will take that dusty fluet...harp...violin...guitar...no piano...no...um...TUBA? Out of the closet and play just one note. One note to change the energy in the universe...coming from an iddy that is no longer the one that made a mess of those days...but rather one that spends her days caring and healing other people. Thanks for the thoughts and hugs. Much love to you mamma bear.
Peace&light...and some much deserved *((hugs)) right back. Foggy
Hey Heartache Thanks for the thoughts. And glad that you enjoy and participated in the musical threads.
I love those lyrics!!!! What a great way to think about the space that XAP rents in our heads. I tell you that is something even today I struggle with. Even though I have come so far, and am so clear now on how dangerous and decieptful our A was, I still at times allow xAP and good thoughts of her to enter my brain. Almost as if I need to convince myself that I could not have been that stupid for something that was all bad! But you are right...I just use those thoughts at a security blanket. Thanks for reminding me its time to grow up!
As a side note I would just say I love Fergie...just wish she would have always stayed with the Black Eyed Peas...thats where she shines the brightest in my opinion.
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(((Foggy!!)))
I was just thinking about posting an APB for you. I've wondered how recovery is going for you. You will be in my thoughts as you begin your chemo. You sound so upbeat and positive that I just know you are going to recover fully in no time at all. As for the hair, I hate that for you. I would
Oh crap...not the beard! Had not thought of that. LOL Well at least I know that it grows so fast it will be back in no time. The hair..eh, I do not really have that much left anyway...but it was fun to grow it out to remember my youth. :)
I too have been reading every day. And I tell you Alwayst, I love your contributions, and you have reason to be quiet and reflective. what you are going through is not easy. I have had you on my mind so much, and your posts are on my list to get through. It took me many days to organize my thoughts on the issues you are facing, as the resinate so deeply with me currently.
Thanks for the thoughts! And glad you did not have to send the binocular police for me. Put on those dancing shoes...its time to celebrate!
Oh and the reason I sound so upbeat is cause for some reason I go away and hid when I'm feeling down...must be a dumb guy thing. What can I say sometimes I suppose I am just a JAM! :)
((BIG OL BEAR HUGS))
Much love my friend...
peace&light
Foggy
THERE YOU ARE!
I am so glad you posted today. About that going away and hiding stuff, ever read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?" It's that CAVE thing that men do. :smileywink:
HI Foggy-
Hi Foggy!
I'm slow in posting - but I'm picking the song on the radio tonight as I drove home!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jlxVwCbljZo
By U2 - Beautiful Day!
The heart is a bloom
Happy Saturday Foggy,
My thoughts and prayers will continue to be with you as you go through chemo.
Hey Foggy :)
I haven't been coming here on a regular basis so didn't even know you had a medical issue that warrants chemotherapy.
Iddy,
I actually have never read that book, but know it gets referred to often in popular culture so maybe I should. I can give you my MPOV on this, however I have to say that with the caveat that I am probably from somewhere between Mars and Venus :) and tend to think about 80% of guys are just arrogant A holes who have completely latched onto the stigmas and attitudes of the patriarchal society we live in.
I do agree to some point. But for me it is never really to take a time-out from the problem at hand, but rather I retreat so that I might think the problem all the way through. I know that many times people tend to react quickly and often irrationally to a problem. I often take my time to think about a problem. Maybe it is my scientific and analytical mind that does the number on me (ha now that was a good pun). So although I can see the authors point reflected in the actions of other men, I really don't think so much that is what causes my "cave" moments. Often times around here someone will post something that I want to respond to...but I wont allow myself to respond right away. I think about what gets said and take the time to process it from my perspective...often times taking to long and then feeling silly about bumping up a thread to give my obtained results.
As for you not participating in musical mondays.... I am now very curious as to what you used to play? I know that it may be difficult to look back on those times, but music really is so so good for the soul. So I hope that someday, you will take that dusty fluet...harp...violin...guitar...no piano...no...um...TUBA? Out of the closet and play just one note. One note to change the energy in the universe...coming from an iddy that is no longer the one that made a mess of those days...but rather one that spends her days caring and healing other people. Thanks for the thoughts and hugs. Much love to you mamma bear.
Peace&light...and some much deserved *((hugs)) right back.
Foggy
Thanks for the thoughts. And glad that you enjoy and participated in the musical threads.
I love those lyrics!!!! What a great way to think about the space that XAP rents in our heads. I tell you that is something even today I struggle with. Even though I have come so far, and am so clear now on how dangerous and decieptful our A was, I still at times allow xAP and good thoughts of her to enter my brain. Almost as if I need to convince myself that I could not have been that stupid for something that was all bad! But you are right...I just use those thoughts at a security blanket. Thanks for reminding me its time to grow up!
As a side note I would just say I love Fergie...just wish she would have always stayed with the Black Eyed Peas...thats where she shines the brightest in my opinion.
Hope you are well thanks again
peace&light
Foggy
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