To the MW who had anA

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Registered: 03-03-2010
To the MW who had anA
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Thu, 03-18-2010 - 11:05am

Most of the posts I read from the other MW who have had A's seems as if they are so happy to still be with their H....I am at this place in life where idk if thats the best thing for me... I have been terribly sick the last few days spent 2 nights in a hospital ER only to be told so many different things... but anyway back to the point my H drove me to the ER Tuesday night after I fainted in the bathroom the next thing I remember is my 17 yr old DD calling him out in the ER because he was drunk, the nurses and the doctor thought I had been drinking because of the smell of ET in the air, I look at this man beside me and realize the man I made a vow to is no longer with me all I have now is a shell. At one time not so long ago this man could look at me and I melted he was my other half and to quote a cheesy movie line "He completed me" Now he just drives me insane! All the lies, the drinking and the cheating is to much to bear sometime......Is this REALLY what I want? There are women out there in loving marriage, with good men who try to do what is best for you and your family's and you have A's anyway so is any marriage really safe....no

On top of all this the XAP texted me last night wanting to know if I was ok and to tell me he misses me....I thought I was ok because he is in a different state far from me but I realize now that I honestly dont know what I want and what to do.... I know this is an endings board I get that but what if in my case this is the ending of the marriage and not the A...What if XAP is better for me and my sanity in the long run....Are these questions that anyone else asked or is anyone else here even remotely in my situation... is anybody married to an alcoholic? Are the questions I am asking normal or am I still in denial or what??

Im soo afraid today is going to be another bad day for me :(

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 2:27pm

Sorry I need to add to my post. I didn’t proof it or spell check so sorry for the errors.


When you are feeling better you must be proactive in your life. I was a tutor a few years ago in college and there were many students that I worked with that are severely disabled (I don’t like that word disabled I would rather say they are challenged) and there are so many programs to help them be successful in life from special housing to special education to work programs.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 03-03-2010
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 4:36pm

Why,

I think you maybe a little confused... My XAP is not married he is single .... I am the cheater not him..... that is not to say that he wouldnt cheat because everyone is capable of becoming a cheater I am just saying that he is not the cheater now.... When I met him my H and I were going through VERY VERY difficult times and we were on the verge of separation... Which we did until he refused to give me the money for rent and was going to fight me for everything I had no choice but to come back home..... My situation is a little different than most here because my XAP until last Friday lived here with my H and myself.....complicated but thats my life

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Registered: 03-17-2010
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 11:40pm

Hi nluvwit2 :)


First i cannot figure out how to pronounce your name, hahaha but i know for sure it has a meaning for you just like mine ... Liberty Wisdom 2010.

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