My Affair

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Registered: 01-12-2011
My Affair
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Sun, 01-30-2011 - 1:19pm

It started as just chatting in a chat room.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
In reply to: arianna48
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 2:25pm

Arianna,

Welcome to our community. I read through your post twice and still didn't see what I was looking for. Are you telling us your A is now over and that your H discovered

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: arianna48
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 3:42pm

Hi Arianna,

Welcome to Ending Affair Support where we take ownership in our actions, don’t play the blame game and work through introspection to get to a healthier place.

It seems you have already ended your A. How long has it been over? How long ago was your D-day (day your spouse discovered you had an A)? Do you have any further contact with your AP or have you maintained NC (no contact) once the A ended.

Please know what I’m about to say is in love and presented to you as food for thought.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 01-12-2011
In reply to: arianna48
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 10:38am

thanks for the tough but true remarks.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: arianna48
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 11:36am

Thanks for being open and honest with us. Thanks for also listing the time frames as to how far out you are from the A. That is helpful to understand where you might be in the healing process.

I’m sorry to read that your T passed away. When already suffering loss during the ending of the A to suffer another loss, is a lot to handle all at once. Did you see progress during counseling? Did your H work to change his behavior? Sorry but I feel compelled to ask again. Is the abuse continuing?

I’m relieved to hear that you are in a religious community that does not practice excommunication.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 01-12-2011
In reply to: arianna48
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 11:58am

Thanks for being open and honest with us. Thanks for also listing the time frames as to how far out you are from the A. That is helpful to understand where you might be in the healing process.

I’m sorry to read that your T passed away. When already suffering loss during the ending of the A to suffer another loss, is a lot to handle all at once. Did you see progress during counseling? Did your H work to change his behavior? Sorry but I feel compelled to ask again. Is the abuse continuing?

I’m relieved to hear that you are in a religious community that does not practice excommunication.