Welcome to our community. I read through your post twice and still didn't see what I was looking for. Are you telling us your A is now over and that your H discovered
Welcome to Ending Affair Support where we take ownership in our actions, don’t play the blame game and work through introspection to get to a healthier place.
It seems you have already ended your A. How long has it been over? How long ago was your D-day (day your spouse discovered you had an A)? Do you have any further contact with your AP or have you maintained NC (no contact) once the A ended.
Please know what I’m about to say is in love and presented to you as food for thought.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Thanks for being open and honest with us. Thanks for also listing the time frames as to how far out you are from the A. That is helpful to understand where you might be in the healing process.
I’m sorry to read that your T passed away. When already suffering loss during the ending of the A to suffer another loss, is a lot to handle all at once. Did you see progress during counseling? Did your H work to change his behavior? Sorry but I feel compelled to ask again. Is the abuse continuing?
I’m relieved to hear that you are in a religious community that does not practice excommunication.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Thanks for being open and honest with us. Thanks for also listing the time frames as to how far out you are from the A. That is helpful to understand where you might be in the healing process.
I’m sorry to read that your T passed away. When already suffering loss during the ending of the A to suffer another loss, is a lot to handle all at once. Did you see progress during counseling? Did your H work to change his behavior? Sorry but I feel compelled to ask again. Is the abuse continuing?
I’m relieved to hear that you are in a religious community that does not practice excommunication.
Arianna,
Welcome to our community. I read through your post twice and still didn't see what I was looking for. Are you telling us your A is now over and that your H discovered
Hi Arianna,
Welcome to Ending Affair Support where we take ownership in our actions, don’t play the blame game and work through introspection to get to a healthier place.
It seems you have already ended your A. How long has it been over? How long ago was your D-day (day your spouse discovered you had an A)? Do you have any further contact with your AP or have you maintained NC (no contact) once the A ended.
Please know what I’m about to say is in love and presented to you as food for thought.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
thanks for the tough but true remarks.
Thanks for being open and honest with us. Thanks for also listing the time frames as to how far out you are from the A. That is helpful to understand where you might be in the healing process.
I’m sorry to read that your T passed away. When already suffering loss during the ending of the A to suffer another loss, is a lot to handle all at once. Did you see progress during counseling? Did your H work to change his behavior? Sorry but I feel compelled to ask again. Is the abuse continuing?
I’m relieved to hear that you are in a religious community that does not practice excommunication.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Thanks for being open and honest with us. Thanks for also listing the time frames as to how far out you are from the A. That is helpful to understand where you might be in the healing process.
I’m sorry to read that your T passed away. When already suffering loss during the ending of the A to suffer another loss, is a lot to handle all at once. Did you see progress during counseling? Did your H work to change his behavior? Sorry but I feel compelled to ask again. Is the abuse continuing?
I’m relieved to hear that you are in a religious community that does not practice excommunication.