my ? of the day

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-29-2008
my ? of the day
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Wed, 05-12-2010 - 5:51pm

Hello All...


I am new sort of here ~ I use to post a long time ago.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 8:12pm

You ended your A that’s excellent and check!


You kept NC double excellent and another check!


You are working on healing and asking yourself questions to move forward very, very good…triple check!


But…your question after six months…that is big enough in your mind today to come back and post here is about something xAP said in a text to you half a year ago? It would be great if EAS was like the psychic hotline and could get inside your and other xAP’s brain and know why they said what they said in a text/email/vm.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 05-13-2010 - 7:04am

I will answer your question with a question. After 6 months, how have people been treating you? Only you know the answer because you have lived through it. I think all he meant was that being busted as the OW, a certain stigma is attached to it. The woman always gets the short end of the stick when an A comes to light. So only you know if his remark held any merit.


Glad you've been out of it for 6 months but sorry a D-Day is what finally pulled the plug. Now you know that there can never be "a friendship" with an XAP. Keep working on your healing and I hope you will continue to read here too. Most questions are answered through the many posts that file through this forum. ;-)


((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-29-2008
Thu, 05-13-2010 - 11:12am

Thank you both for the reply..


I did know the answer to the question was not of importance it was just one of those things that I couldn't get out of my head.