My H totally ignored Valentine's Day
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My H totally ignored Valentine's Day
| Tue, 02-15-2005 - 12:06pm |
I ended my A about a month and a half ago. My H never found out about it, and since I made the decision to end my A, I've really been trying to make our M better. I woke my H up early Valentine's morning, before work and school, and made love with him. He seemed to think that was pretty great. But then, I don't get even get so much as a card for V-day. It's just feels like it's more of the same that I've put up with for 15+ years with him. All throughout our M, I've always been the one who does 90% of the giving and supporting.
Did anyone else have a sucky Valentine's Day with their spouse and miss the attention and affection they got from their AP? Can anyone else commiserate?
NewSummer

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Have you TALKED to your husband about what he did not do and how it effected you, I am sure you have heard it before but communications is the key to making any relationship work.
Better to attack the problem then to dwell on it.
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Yes I did tell him and now he basically isn't speaking to me. I'll get the silent, angry treatment for a couple of days now, unless I apologize for being hurt that he ignores me all the time and didn't do anything for me for V-Day. You see, he punishes me if I'm ever angry or upset with him. I'm feeling pretty hopeless about my M today.
Summer
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Do you and hubby have children, if not your in a better postion to standup for you reasonable needs, I don't want to start a fight but you should not back down if you do your hubby will get it that he can act like a spoiled child and control you that way.
I don't know how bad it really is but if you had an affair maybe your ready to force the issues in your marriage....HUBBY marriage counceling or the doorway whats it going to be buster.
It may sound radical but how long can your marriage survive the status que !
JMHO
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