Lilly, I am a bolter, too. At some point I learned that you can't run away from your problems, because you can't run away from yourself. Wherever you go, there you are. Best to just hunker down and do the work that makes YOU the person you want to be with - and don't worry right now about having somebody else in your life to complete you or fulfill you. First of all because you will NEVER find that in anyone, ever; it's within YOU to feel complete and fulfilled and no validation or relationship with another will do that for you.
When you hear that voice telling you you can't do this, silence it. Retrain your innervoice to be positive, loving and supportive. And remember that you are in no darker, deeper, or lonelier place than most of this board has seen -- you CAN and WILL defeat these blues and go on to have a wonderful life.
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Lilly,
I am a bolter, too. At some point I learned that you can't run away from your problems, because you can't run away from yourself. Wherever you go, there you are. Best to just hunker down and do the work that makes YOU the person you want to be with - and don't worry right now about having somebody else in your life to complete you or fulfill you. First of all because you will NEVER find that in anyone, ever; it's within YOU to feel complete and fulfilled and no validation or relationship with another will do that for you.
When you hear that voice telling you you can't do this, silence it. Retrain your innervoice to be positive, loving and supportive. And remember that you are in no darker, deeper, or lonelier place than most of this board has seen -- you CAN and WILL defeat these blues and go on to have a wonderful life.
hugs to you,
Dee
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