By letting him go.....focusing on you and moving on....sound harsh and I know it is not easy...but I would not contact him. Let it go. The man you described does not sound like someone I would want to be with, even if he was available and he is NOT...
what if you had a stroke or an accident? would he do you the same? please think about what you described and what you really would want for your life-LONG TERM. The man moved and is likely lying about all his excuses for not leaving W....they lie so naturally, its scary.
I would advise you not to contact him...u have been good for three months, you have made it this far. I am three weeks NC and I will not break it...I am like a bulldog in it now...I wont break it. Not worth picking at a wound that is healing. I am sorry you are hurting. Hang in there. We are here, welcome and keep posting....glad you came here first
Welcome to our community and I agree with everything Sienna has already written. You need to start letting this go...he is not going to leave his wife, and you are not going to ride off into the sunset together. All those things he once said are now null and void. From what I gather, he hasn't even made contact, has he? His silence says it all. He wants to put that part of his life behind him, and you need to do the same.
I hope you will continue to read here, learn all that you can about affairs and how deceitful they are. People lie; to their families, friends, and even to the AP. Also, even if was telling the truth that his wife knew about the A, marriages usually do not end because of it. Sometimes they become even stronger despite the lies and deception because now the secret is out and they begin opening channels of communication again.
Seriously though, not hearing from him really tells the whole story. He is done and starting over somewhere else. You are holding onto hope that just doesn't exist, honey. It's time to let go and start focusing on you, your RL, and why you took this path in the first place. Are you in counseling? Perhaps talking to a professional will help you put this chapter in your life behind you.
Keep reading and posting, and be sure to check out the Healing Library located at the bottom of the main page. It is designed to help enders heal and move on.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
By letting him go.....focusing on you and moving on....sound harsh and I know it is not easy...but I would not contact him. Let it go. The man you described does not sound like someone I would want to be with, even if he was available and he is NOT...
what if you had a stroke or an accident? would he do you the same? please think about what you described and what you really would want for your life-LONG TERM. The man moved and is likely lying about all his excuses for not leaving W....they lie so naturally, its scary.
I would advise you not to contact him...u have been good for three months, you have made it this far. I am three weeks NC and I will not break it...I am like a bulldog in it now...I wont break it. Not worth picking at a wound that is healing. I am sorry you are hurting. Hang in there. We are here, welcome and keep posting....glad you came here first
Toni,
Welcome to our community and I agree with everything Sienna has already written. You need to start letting this go...he is not going to leave his wife, and you are not going to ride off into the sunset together. All those things he once said are now null and void. From what I gather, he hasn't even made contact, has he? His silence says it all. He wants to put that part of his life behind him, and you need to do the same.
I hope you will continue to read here, learn all that you can about affairs and how deceitful they are. People lie; to their families, friends, and even to the AP. Also, even if was telling the truth that his wife knew about the A, marriages usually do not end because of it. Sometimes they become even stronger despite the lies and deception because now the secret is out and they begin opening channels of communication again.
Seriously though, not hearing from him really tells the whole story. He is done and starting over somewhere else. You are holding onto hope that just doesn't exist, honey. It's time to let go and start focusing on you, your RL, and why you took this path in the first place. Are you in counseling? Perhaps talking to a professional will help you put this chapter in your life behind you.
Keep reading and posting, and be sure to check out the Healing Library located at the bottom of the main page. It is designed to help enders heal and move on.
((Hugs))
~ Iddy~
~Iddy~
Hi Toni,
Welcome to EAS.
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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.