My husband

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Registered: 02-02-2011
My husband
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Wed, 03-02-2011 - 12:11pm
As the days are going by (day 16 nc) my h and I are getting closer, we are getting along. He use to come home to a w who was in the bdroom watching tv no dinner etc.... This would be cuz I felt so toxic I did nothing now I cook, we actually talk, we hang out together and hes making an effort to come home earlier. This is good.
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Wed, 03-02-2011 - 12:12pm
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Wed, 03-02-2011 - 12:18pm

That's great to hear, LFH. I am all too familiar with the feeling of pushing your H (and everyone you love) away from you because you feel so unworthy of their love (and so preoccupied with your own A drama). I built a huge wall between me and my husband that I'm worried can't come down now, but the fact that you two are making positive progress gives me a little bit of hope. Keep me posted!

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Registered: 06-08-2010
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 12:56pm

Yay, LFH!!!

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 2:52pm

SEE HOW EASY THIS ALL SEEMS WHEN YOU DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM AN ADDICTION? <---call it what you want - it CONSUMED your being... :)

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Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Wed, 03-02-2011 - 6:19pm
I,too, am finally starting to let my H back in after so many months of keeping him at arms length. I am ashamed at the thought that I would actually wish him to stay at work longer just so I could have my private conversations with xAP. I would cringe when H would text me saying he was on his way home. I am now trying to open my heart again and remind myself that I pushed him away. It is my fault we are not close anymore. He picked up on it a few months ago, and kept saying he just couldn't figure me out...why I'm acting so different. I was on such an emotional roller coaster all the time. Now I'm trying to ground myself again, and be the W he so deserves.
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Wed, 03-02-2011 - 6:34pm
Me to I loved his long work hours now I'm already disliking them though hes making an effort to work less... I feel bad he thinks his working all the time is our issue and this is all my fault.
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Registered: 03-17-2010
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 8:44pm

It is so nice to hear such news as this that a