hey babysteps i feel your pain! I wish I could stop those god dam imaginary discussions and arguments with him too...Its insane isn't it! Im trying to do the same as you and shout stop at myself every time i do it.
ah we'll get there girl we just have to be patient ....grrrr lol
I hope you were able to turn off your "stinkin thinkin" and get some sleep :)
We sound a lot alike. I try to rationalize some sort of relationship all the time. That is what has gotten me sucked back in so many times and why I'm 7.5 years into this hell. But 5 days out now!
And I'm right there with you regarding impatience. "Time healing all wounds" - we need a fast forward button. It really does though. My brother passed away when I was 15. I remind myself that if I can get through that, I can make it through getting this pathetic a-hole out of my life.
Something my mom has always said that helps me is "feelings aren't facts".
So been there done that... I hated it too. I know you've heard others say it, but it does pass. Your mind will calm down. It just takes time... frustrating, I know. I did get an email sent to me the other day from a site called "Heal my Broken Heart." I took some quiz on there about what kind of broken heart I have and now the site sends me "advice." This particular email might be helpful to you.
Oh, Jane, I think I'm going to have to sign up on that site. More great advice.
Babysteps....I'm right there with you, my friend. Anger, sadness, disgust, desire. I guess it's all just got to cycle through like a load of dirty laundry. Eventually it'll all get washed out and the results with be a sparkling, cleaner version of ourselves.
Glad you like the quote - my mom is very wise, and has many - a funny one: I was telling her I "should" do this and I "should" do that and she told me to stop shoulding all over myself :)
hey babysteps i feel your pain! I wish I could stop those god dam imaginary discussions and arguments with him too...Its insane isn't it! Im trying to do the same as you and shout stop at myself every time i do it.
ah we'll get there girl we just have to be patient ....grrrr lol
Good morning Babysteps -
I hope you were able to turn off your "stinkin thinkin" and get some sleep :)
We sound a lot alike. I try to rationalize some sort of relationship all the time. That is what has gotten me sucked back in so many times and why I'm 7.5 years into this hell. But 5 days out now!
And I'm right there with you regarding impatience. "Time healing all wounds" - we need a fast forward button. It really does though. My brother passed away when I was 15. I remind myself that if I can get through that, I can make it through getting this pathetic a-hole out of my life.
Something my mom has always said that helps me is "feelings aren't facts".
Hope today is a better day for everyone.
Bodhi
So been there done that... I hated it too. I know you've heard others say it, but it does pass. Your mind will calm down. It just takes time... frustrating, I know. I did get an email sent to me the other day from a site called "Heal my Broken Heart." I took some quiz on there about what kind of broken heart I have and now the site sends me "advice." This particular email might be helpful to you.
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OMG, bodhi!! Your mother is a very wise woman. I absolutely love that:
FEELINGS AREN'T FACTS
I'm gonna scribble that on my rearview mirror. Love it.
Oh, Jane, I think I'm going to have to sign up on that site. More great advice.
Babysteps....I'm right there with you, my friend. Anger, sadness, disgust, desire. I guess it's all just got to cycle through like a load of dirty laundry. Eventually it'll all get washed out and the results with be a sparkling, cleaner version of ourselves.
Still holding your hand...
Love,
~alwayst2
Always -
Glad you like the quote - my mom is very wise, and has many - a funny one: I was telling her I "should" do this and I "should" do that and she told me to stop shoulding all over myself :)
Bodhi