My laundry list of irritations...

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My laundry list of irritations...
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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 12:31am

Being hopeful - Frick.

Babysteps


...even if it is all I can do, I can take one babystep.


NC/LC since May 21, 2010

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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 3:41am

hey babysteps i feel your pain! I wish I could stop those god dam imaginary discussions and arguments with him too...Its insane isn't it! Im trying to do the same as you and shout stop at myself every time i do it.


ah we'll get there girl we just have to be patient ....grrrr lol

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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 8:40am

Good morning Babysteps -

I hope you were able to turn off your "stinkin thinkin" and get some sleep :)

We sound a lot alike. I try to rationalize some sort of relationship all the time. That is what has gotten me sucked back in so many times and why I'm 7.5 years into this hell. But 5 days out now!

And I'm right there with you regarding impatience. "Time healing all wounds" - we need a fast forward button. It really does though. My brother passed away when I was 15. I remind myself that if I can get through that, I can make it through getting this pathetic a-hole out of my life.

Something my mom has always said that helps me is "feelings aren't facts".

Hope today is a better day for everyone.

Bodhi

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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 10:03am

So been there done that... I hated it too. I know you've heard others say it, but it does pass. Your mind will calm down. It just takes time... frustrating, I know. I did get an email sent to me the other day from a site called "Heal my Broken Heart." I took some quiz on there about what kind of broken heart I have and now the site sends me "advice." This particular email might be helpful to you.


Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 10:11am

OMG, bodhi!! Your mother is a very wise woman. I absolutely love that:


FEELINGS AREN'T FACTS


I'm gonna scribble that on my rearview mirror. Love it.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 10:17am

Oh, Jane, I think I'm going to have to sign up on that site. More great advice.


Babysteps....I'm right there with you, my friend. Anger, sadness, disgust, desire. I guess it's all just got to cycle through like a load of dirty laundry. Eventually it'll all get washed out and the results with be a sparkling, cleaner version of ourselves.


Still holding your hand...


Love,


~alwayst2

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 10:30am

Always -

Glad you like the quote - my mom is very wise, and has many - a funny one: I was telling her I "should" do this and I "should" do that and she told me to stop shoulding all over myself :)

Bodhi