my life lesson on opportunity cost

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Registered: 12-01-2010
my life lesson on opportunity cost
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Mon, 01-17-2011 - 12:52pm

Hi Lovelies

I'm feeling in trouble right now and heartbroken.

Yes it seems my life lately is a huge lesson on the concept of "Opportunitiy Cost" - the definition: this is based on what must be given up (the next best alternative) as a result of a decision. Any decision that involves a choice between two or more options has an opportunity cost.

I felt my heart break a little more last night when I realized something -- I could have had something meaningful and healthy with someone but now it's too late.

Beginning in early 2010, My decision was to fall head over heels in love with the unavailable married man that could provide no future to me. I did this instead of allowing the light in of a most wonderful (available) man who was trying to woo me early last

Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!

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Registered: 12-01-2010
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 1:00am
Thank you Iddy!! I read the article and it's very good. Yes I'm seeing a T. We had to postpone our next session until the end of January. Knowing me I'll have some other big thing to deal with by then but for now i will try to focus on my recovery and just be friends with my guy friend and see what happens.
Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!
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Registered: 12-01-2010
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 1:05am
Oh Michelle, can I give you a great big hug? I know you and I have so much in common on the guy front. I will check out the baggagerclaim site. Thank you. I am sorry your guy friend won't talk to you anymore but maybe that will change at some point.

I will hope that some day my friend will become available and we can try... but I will have to wait and see, be his friend and be patient. I care about him a lot but I will do what I should and focus on me and the recovery from all the other crap!

Love and hugs!

Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!
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Registered: 11-10-2010
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 12:08pm
Ooo, that sounds good.. I love Ben & jerry's cookie dough!!!

Hang in there my sweet friend. I am working through an excellent book right now...The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson and it Is helping me see my reactions in a new way. Helping me understand how I sometimes react from old wounds. Check it out.

Stay strong,
UBM

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