my om messaged me today...

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Registered: 08-01-2004
my om messaged me today...
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Sun, 12-05-2004 - 6:22pm

He told me to Die. I'm so upset I can't even think straight. :(


I didn't know it was from him, and was just horrified when I saw what it said.


I didn't want to end things with him on a bad note. But trying to be nice wasn't working either.


Arghhhhhhh! Sorry ladies, I'm just terribly upset and needed to vent someplace.


Someday

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 6:53pm

How could anyone possibly be more rude!!! My only thought is that he must be hurting pretty bad right now to say something so mean!!! I know you feel horrible right now, but we all know he doesn't mean it, and will regret saying it!!!! I hope you never have to speak to this man again, and if you have the choice, I wish you the strength NOT TO!!!!

Hugs to you Someday!! I'm sure this hurts really bad!!!

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 12-05-2004 - 7:30pm

Day

Thats a awful thing to say to anyone for any reason.

Did it come from his home address, if he is married or has a SO could they have sent it ?

Best you can do is to KEEP it and store it away some place safe just incase !

Stay strong

Free

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 6:33am
Ofcourse you are upset. You must feel hurt and angry at the same time.. dont let him see it bothers you.. and you vent as much as you want, dont apologise for it Day.
Trish
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 8:10am

Well, for your OM to tell you to die means he is not wrapped too tightly at the moment...another good reason for you to stay away at the moment. Im not saying that he is a dangerous man, we all say things when we are angry...however emotions are really intense at the moment and you can't end things all "nicey nicey" when things are like that. Emotions win over logic and it is almost impossible to see the "big picture".

I know it hurts you to hear him say something like that but try and see where it is coming from. From alot of hurt and despair.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Maybe you should block him from your messenger list?

Jazzdiva

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Registered: 08-01-2004
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 2:14pm

Thanks for the support everyone. I dunno. I had blocked him on my IM's and email. Thing is if he uses new names on IM's or new web based email addy's he can get through, so I guess to truly avoid someone you must block everyone, or change your name/email etc.


Anyway I was so upset I messaged him, and then realized my folly immediately. *bangs head on desk*


We both frequent a few places and I realized I didn't want him to publicly humiliate me about all this if he got angry enough. Now I am not sure what I am going to do.


frustrated.


Someday

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 6:32pm
If he is someone that could and would publicly humiliate you then that is just another reason for you to stay away from him. Don't answer his stupid messages. I know it is hard...I fell into that trap way WAY too many times.

Jazzdiva