My story-before the affair.

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Registered: 11-16-2009
My story-before the affair.
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Wed, 10-13-2010 - 11:09am

I am going to go way back.

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 11:22am

Incredible story, nolove. Thank you for sharing. I think many of us have similar issues, which is why we allowed ourselves to get involved in our affairs. We are not bad people...just "damaged" as you said.

Best of everything to you as you continue to heal and to discover the real you.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 08-10-2010
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 12:10pm

Nolove, thanks for sharing.....

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Registered: 10-20-2009
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 12:19pm

Thank you for sharing your story love.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 11-16-2009
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 12:30pm

Thank you Garfy and New Season!

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 12:52pm

((No Love))

Are we sisters? I swear we had the same mother. ;-) Listen, my mommy issues damn near lost me everything when she was alive. Had I gone to therapy back then, I don't just *Know, * but would bet my life savings that I would not have had two failed M's and a late in life A. Seriously, do yourself the biggest favor you can and find an individual therapist, one preferably trained in CBT. (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). He/she will teach you how to destroy all those negative/destructive tapes playing in your head that started in childhood. Do a google search to learn more about this technique.

Thanks for sharing your story, as painful as it is. There is a wonderful, bright, compassionate person inside of you that needs to learn how to love herself.

(((Hugs)))

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 1:02pm

NL -

You're right, forgiving isn't cut and dry. And when the scars run as deeply as yours, it's even harder. Thanks so much for sharing your story. You are already on the right path by recognizing your behavior. :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 11-16-2009
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 1:12pm

Iddy,

Sorry to hear you too had a difficult childhood and trouble with your mother.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2009
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 1:19pm
thank you Bodhi for your continued support. Means a lot.
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 2:00pm

Love,

Iddy is so right about CBT and I'm glad to hear that you're so proactive about following up on her advice.

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Registered: 11-16-2009
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 2:16pm
thanks Dee. Your support and everyone else's is much appreciated. I actually feel like I matter.

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