My stupid relapse cost me
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My stupid relapse cost me
| Fri, 06-11-2010 - 1:57pm |
Doesn't it always cost us, in one way or another?
I had gone essentially 6, count 'em, 6 months with NC!
| Fri, 06-11-2010 - 1:57pm |
Doesn't it always cost us, in one way or another?
I had gone essentially 6, count 'em, 6 months with NC!
mwjbto,
First of all, how fortunate that you have what sounds like a very loving, very supportive husband that you can lean on. Keep leaning him for strength because he obviously loves you with all his heart.
Six months NC is quite an accomplishment and yep, you blew it. However, I don't think it's right or fair to you to think that foible cost you six months of progress. Quite the contrary, IMHO. So many of us (me included) have made the mistake of thinking we were doing so well and it wouldn't hurt to have a little convo with xap. How wrong that is, as we all find out. But you will recover from this. Don't let the past six months be a waste and don't let this mistake be a waste. You have learned a lot on your journey. This just probably solidifies what you've learned.
A big hug to you sweetie. Damn the pain of it all, huh? You will get past this slip and you'll be stronger than ever.
Much love,
~alwayst2
mwjbto,
You have my admiration for being 6 months NC and ignoring all of his fishing attempts. You may have had a week moment and bit however it doesnt mean that you have stuck a toe back in the "A water". You have learned from it and this should strengthen your reslove.
I hope you know that your post helped me today!! I have been doing really good overall. I am about 6-7 weeks NC with no fishing attempts either way
Wow did I need to read this today....
I have been in solid N/C with my xAP since 4/3....so 60+days. We are family friends so that is not an easy feat. This morning I realized that yesterday came and went 6/10...the day I exposed my feelings to xAP 4 yrs ago which started our EA. I was so proud of myself and happy that I never even thought about that at all yesterday. But....today different story. I have not stopped thinking about him today. I have come so close to texting a short "hi" text
Ok, so maybe you caved, but you are not back to square one. You still have that 6 months under your belt and this time it will be easier... and this time you know that you cannot cave.
Hugs,
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/