my thoughts on an affair

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-11-2009
my thoughts on an affair
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Wed, 09-23-2009 - 11:33am

Hi all,


Everyone has been so helpful to me as I go through a very terrible time in my life.


I feel the need to write down some thoughts.


I hope you remember my story. My AP is now off the job and I have absolutely no need to speak to him. But I call him still. (I know this is where everyone will yell and say this is not the board for me).


I want to share.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 12:02pm

What kind of monster am I?


You are not a monster.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 12:56pm

Hi again Confused,


I see you have a personal relationship with God and so do I. God does forgive us for our sin but that does not take away the consequences of our actions and it does not take away the pain we cause people because of our actions.


God has removed

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2006
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 1:53pm

Have you considered counselling confused?

Onward and upward.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-14-2009
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 5:25pm
It was only a kiss. I think you are being overly dramatic with the god and hell stuff. Talk to a councelor and move on from it. YOu made a mistake...besides..the bible is filled with infidelity.
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Registered: 01-23-2009
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 10:47am

Hi Confused,

You said

"Of course, the working relationship is over but we are friends for life but my husband cannot know this. But I must give my life to God. I am a lovely woman, and God wants me to be his. These are the things he say to me, a man that only 3 weeks kissed me and within 1 min wanted to have sex with me, but I didn't let him"

You have to stop now before there is a D Day. People have said this over and over, but it is terrible. Life as you know it will change forever. You have to be strong and do the right thing. I think you know very well what you need to do to move forward and you know you cannot be a friend for life with this person. Did you read the D Day posts below? You must stop contacting him.

If you stop, in a few weeks you will feel so much better! I feel so much better myself and so many people post about how much better they feel about themselves and their lives after only a few weeks. It is not easy and there are still moments, but I can't tell you how much better it is for me emotionally. I am a much happier person and at peace with myself. Just think a few weeks until you feel whole again until you are back on track with your life with this mistake behind you.

I too was seduced, but I let myself be seduced because I really enjoyed the attention. I also knew that he used the same lines with others. I even told him he was full of it at first, but I still fell for it. You know the truth and you can get this behind you and move forward in your life towards peace and happiness. Life is so much better this way.

It is amazing once you are out of the fog and you see the experience and the person as they truly are.