my thoughts to crystal clear

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Registered: 04-14-2003
my thoughts to crystal clear
Fri, 04-18-2003 - 5:44pm
im writing u to tell u my thoughts on having a affair not evry marriage is perfect and i can agree with u on confronting the cheater but i cannnot agree with u thinking that u were not wrong because u were single unlike many other women who date married men u have to ask yourself this if every marriage was perfect then their would be no divorces and no one would cheat like i said before and i will say it agin because its my opnion ,what made those women cheat on their hubbys maybe they dont have an answer to that question maybe they cheated because they felt unneeded in the home iam not placeing blame on anyone and not u espessially but was reflecting on the comment u made about that one woman who had an affair but she was married and you told her to tell because it would make her feel better that is true and all but telling can destroy everything and if two people seek couseling they can make it work still and their is no reason to leave like my mom said u cant fix what aint broke anyways no hard feelings i would like a response back and hope to read more of your posts and opnions
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 04-18-2003 - 5:49pm
I think you're confusing me with somebody else. For one, I am married, and I am NOT wanting to tell my husband.

What post are you referring to?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 04-18-2003 - 6:23pm
Hey sw. You are getting them confused. There were several posters involved in those two particular strings. Go back and reread them. I think the layout of the outline board can be confusing at times.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-18-2003 - 8:08pm
If you were referring to my recent posts, I will clarify it for you. There is a vast difference between the word wrong and responsible. Never did I say I wasn't wrong for having an affair, but that I would not accept RESPONSIBILITY for the MM's choice to have an affair with me or the impact it had or could have had on his marriage. That is his responsibility. Hope this helps you to better understand what I had said.

Oh and by the way, I didn't say the cheater should be confronted only by the spouse, but by both the spouse and the OW/OM at the same time. Then the lies would end.

Good day to you.