Narcissim or reality?

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Registered: 08-25-2010
Narcissim or reality?
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Thu, 01-06-2011 - 3:17pm

I've been doing a lot of personal soul searching this week because of something someone unloaded on me (not pretty I say) and it made me think alot about how I come off and what is real about me and what is my narcissistic perceptions based from my own personal history.

"I" am not a fighter by nature, but when I feel wronged I DO and will stand up for what I believe.

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Thu, 01-06-2011 - 3:39pm

I really believe that we become narcissistic while in an A. I remember when all I thought about was my A. My children took a back seat (sadly) for those couple of months. I also remember that I did act narcissistic at work as well. An A brings out the devil in all of us I believe. At least you are willing to really examine yourself which means their is room for change.

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Registered: 11-18-2010
Thu, 01-06-2011 - 7:34pm

So a "friend" is screaming this stuff at you?

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 9:39am

Lolly,

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You just described my youngest sister, and although all of us (there's 3 of us plus her) get annoyed by

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 09-25-2006
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 10:06am

Totally selfish while in A.

We all carry some N tendencies, a true N does

Onward and upward.
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Registered: 10-17-2010
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 10:47am

Hey Lolly,

I am going to try and be the devil's advocate here ok?

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Registered: 08-25-2010
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 7:05pm

Thanks to all of you - to answer some questions...

Our conversation came because we have fought more off and on over the past month or two, and at one point I did kind of LC with her because it was exhausting how much she would tell me that my feelings, responses, and overall handling of things were "wrong".

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 7:31pm

Lolly

I totally GET what you are saying.

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Registered: 10-16-2010
Sat, 01-08-2011 - 2:16am

Hi Lolly!

First of all I could never tolerate any friend screaming at me, even a close one.