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NC Day 1 almost over
| Tue, 02-01-2011 - 7:28pm |
Part of me is sick that he didn't even email me an explanation for his abrupt getting-back-together with xGF.
But, what difference does it make, right?

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Thank you all for your words and support.
NV,
Hello NV- Day 1 down. Good for you. All of the emotions you are experiencing are normal. And you will cycle through many more before you start to feel "normal" again- whatever that means, right? I just wanted to pop in here to send you my love and support. We all remember those first few days of NC. The pain, the confusion, the needing answers. What everyone else has said is true. It doesn't matter. Your paths diverge here and from now on they have no bearing on each other. Keep reminding yourself that. And yes, be very thankful that you did not have a DDay. Foggy is right. Take whatever you are feeling and multiply is by 1000 times and then you might understand how a betrayed spouse feels. My DH suffered through 3 DDays, bless his soul for being strong enough to stick around. Keep you head up, NV. I promise it gets better.
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
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garfy
Hi nvr -
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Okay ... but WHY?
That's not the root of it ... why did your ego need this external validation at the expense of all others. I don't believe you are cruel or unkind person. I personally believe that there are deeper issues underneath this more superficial explanations of why we engaged in such self-destructive behaviors. ESPECIALLY because we were almost always experiencing great pain in doing so. So WHY?
I was delusional - I thought as long as no one knew, I wasn't hurting anyone. I never lost affection for my H. But, the A was only 6 months physcial, 8 months total, and maybe if it had gone on longer, I would have withdrawn from H, I don't know.
My A was 13 months and I did withdraw from H.... (2 months EA and 11 months PA)
TU, what do you think the root of the problem might have been?
I work with xAP - thankfully on different floors, so contact would be by email or IM only, which is how we started - so accidental contact is always a possibility.
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