NC is impossible 100%

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Registered: 01-30-2000
NC is impossible 100%
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Sun, 06-27-2010 - 7:33pm

I have a problem with being completely NC due to the fact he is friends with my H and my family even my kids.

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Registered: 08-24-2008
Mon, 06-28-2010 - 3:29am
Hi Penny. In the Healing Library section, there are articles/threads about Less Contact (LC) that will help you in these situations. There are others here who had been in A's with their neighbor. Good luck to you hon.
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Registered: 02-02-2010
Tue, 06-29-2010 - 8:20pm

Hi Penny- I hope you have read the tips on maintaining LC. When I first ended my A, I had to work with xap and I used that as an excuse to remain in contact with him. I was not adhering to the rules of LC. It is possible to move on and create separation even when your lives are intertwined. You have to keep yourself in check. Question every instance of communication and make sure it is absolutely necessary and not an excuse to contact him for the sake of being validated. It's tough, but it can be done, as so many here have illustrated (Iddy, TU and CSN come to mind- all work with XAP).

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/