NC- what does it really mean ?
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NC- what does it really mean ?
| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 9:02pm |
what does it mean to you ? Does it mean it's really over no matter what ?
sad & Lonely
| Wed, 04-14-2004 - 9:02pm |
sad & Lonely
I tried to end it for 6 mos. and finally I did it. It helped that I had met a really neat single guy that I felt some connection with. I wish I had been strong enough to do it completely on my own, but once I realized it was even possible to be attracted & interested in someone AVAILABLE -- I knew I wanted to be free.
I ended it over a year ago & never looked back. He tried and tried to reestablish contact "just be friends" or "we'll be together some day" but I just rejected all of his attempts. It took about 6 mos. for him to stop trying and maybe even another 2 mos. for me to feel completely & totally free of "it" and the guilt and the addiction. But I am and I am SO grateful.
My life, from day 1 of NC was better. It was NOT easy because you're so addicted to the relationship. or I was anyway. but i knew it was my only chance to change my life and make it better. Every day I stayed away from him was better than the one before. My life is now about a million times better.
I'm growing and developing as a person. My life is richer, more honest and more fun and more interesting. That single guy I met -- the first one is still my boyfriend. And sometimes we struggle but it's so so so much better than the affair.
Do it girl, stick with it -- your life will be better. It just takes time and staying VERY busy.