In need of advice!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
In need of advice!!
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Mon, 10-11-2010 - 12:35am

This whole weekend has been bad

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 7:45am

Hi Liset,

I am happy you found us as it's not an easy task since the board upgrade.

So, I am a little confused. Are you ending your A again or are you just wanting to talk about how you need to end it. The reason I am asking is because this is a board for gals/gents who have made a conscious decision to end it. So, where do you stand right now, today?

Remember that once we have physical contact with an AP, the attachment process begins. Of course there are also emotional affairs where the heart is very attached, but sex for women is the glue that keeps us really, really stuck. The only way to end an A is to go complete NC so those hormones can settle down, allowing the disengagement process to begin.

If you have gone a couple of weeks with NC, you just need to push yourself a little harder now and get to that 3 week mark. From there you will be able to see things more clearly than you do now, but you are on track already.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 9:33am

Hi, Liseth-

It sounds like you already know that this A has to end, so kudos to you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2009
Mon, 10-11-2010 - 8:30pm

Hi Liseth,

Welcome to Endings.

You hit the nail right square on the head when you said: "he says all the right things and I stay and stay."

Affairs are about manipulations and lies.

silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...