Need Advice

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Registered: 06-22-2004
Need Advice
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Tue, 06-22-2004 - 11:27am
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Edited 6/23/2004 12:20 pm ET ET by lostnhim
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Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: lostnhim
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 9:26pm
HI Lost

Do yourself a big favor, drop the affair, work on things at home if you cannot work out the problem with MC and IC then leave the marriage in an honest open way NO LIES AND NO SNEAKING around, as hard as leaving a marriage is the pain of the affair will in time be far worse for everyone involve and lead to true bitterness between you and your husband which will effect your children nagatively.

And on a side bar many Cheating MM say there going to leave the wife for the OW very very few ever carry through on it.

Free

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: lostnhim
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:36am

Ditto! Well said MFN.

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Registered: 05-18-2004
In reply to: lostnhim
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 8:14am
My advice to you is if you KNOW that he's going back to his W then you should back away NOW. I know you want to enjoy these last moments, but there's a chance you could fall even deeper in love and it's going to be that much harder. Either way you are going to be hurt, but if YOU take the step to end things, it might provide a little bit of comfort knowing you ended it, rather than just waiting for him to end it. JMO!
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Registered: 06-22-2004
In reply to: lostnhim
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 1:35pm
I would like to that you all for your advice.

We have hardly talked at all this past week with everything

both of us had going on at home. I talked to him today and

said goodbye. Hoping that I can be strong because I will

miss my best friend.