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Need advice in a hurry please
| Mon, 09-13-2004 - 4:56pm |
I will re-cap real quick. I am MW ending A. triggered b/c every time we are together, he does a NC afterward for a while. This last time, he said it was because his GF was sick and that she had found some of my hair in his house & was asking questions & he was scared. Twice so far today, someone with a blocked i.d. has called my house and hangs up when I answer. As far as I know, he gets all his mail delivered to a p.o. box and deletes all calls from cell phone, so I just don't know. Do I e-mail him that it may be her? Do I have any obligatin to warn him or am I just looking for an excuse to contact him? Or, could it be her and she's waiting for a male voice to answer so she can talk to my H.? Am I just being totally paranoid here and they're just wrong numbers? I was thinking it could even be him, calling from a pay phone but why would he do that? Help, please!!

That's a lot of weird coincidences for one day for sure. I would probably steer clear of contacting him. (I'm with ya on the OM having NC after getting together...that sucks and that's what mine did) But trying to contact him will only weave an even more tangled web. What if she finds out, or has more ammo for your H if that's what she's up to? And, you are running the risk of starting up again with him. It may very well be wrong numbers, so try not to freak. I would try to answer the phone tonight, or better yet do that thing where can you block any blocked or private numbers. I know my phone co. does that, but not sure how. Stay calm, just be a little cautious. Keep us posted!!!!!!!
Think - could she know it was you? Could she get your number? Would she do that without confronting her boyfriend? Hangups do happen sometimes - it may not be what you think.
I have noticed that I have been more worried about stuff like that since I started my A. It goes with the territory. I hope it is nothing!
I have made a big deal over minor things when I have wanted to contact MM. I have worried about things that weren't that important and made mountains out of molehills so I had a good excuse to call him. I don't know you, so maybe you don't do that like me - but think about it, give it some time and set a goal before contacting him.
Wait for one more hang up - or wait for 4 more hours and then think about it again.
Good luck!