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| Mon, 12-14-2009 - 3:12pm |
Ex AP and I have a mutual friend. We were talking one day and I hinted that I slept with him. I never came right out and told her. Why did I hint? I don't know, I've never told anyone about us. Maybe I thought I'd feel better if I somewhat confessed? Anyway, she went and told him that I hinted we had slept together and of course he denied it to her. He got pissed at me and we had a huge fight. We've since made up (no sex) He said he was sorry and that he trusts me. Of course, I look like an a** and a liar. I haven't talked to her since he told me, but I heard through the grapevine that she thinks I make stuff up. Should I call her and talk to her about it? He told me not to because it'll look guilty and then she will know that we've slept together. I don't know what to do....he sees her frequently on a professional/business level.

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Let it go....period.
I'm confused...is your A over?
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
No, I broke NC and called him. I just wanted to talk to him. Stupid, right?
Honestly, I don't want to write too much on these boards because you never know who's reading them. I don't go into much detail because of that. This whole situation is hard because even though the A has ended, our children are still friends,we live in the same town, know the same people, etc...so even though we're not having it anymore, I still have to deal with all that other "stuff".
I have no problem going into more detail through a PM message.
Jilly,
Do not give your friend one more ounce of XMM info. Perhaps not speaking to her for a bit will help to strengthen your resolve. She will only try to pry more info out of you for her own curious pleasure, and you don't need the stress right now of having to watch every word you say. AND...no more personal conversations with XMM, Okay? Keep your LC strictly business and this will send him a message louder than any words/explanation ever could. You have to
~Iddy~
Hi Jilly,
I understand your hesitation to write details on a public board. I use to feel the same way when I first started posting.
The only PM
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Thanks E1....I might take you up on that.
Why am I so STUPID? Today I went to his house to babysit. His laptop was on the counter and my curiousity got the best of me. I checked the history on it....he's been to f***book.com, yahoo personals, and match.com. I find the yahoo and match.com funny because he's neither seperated nor divorced yet. He still lives with the W. Wonder what he's telling the ladies. Also, so much for him not wanting any more affairs. THEN (stupid me) bring up the mutual friend. Then I tell him our A is a still a secret and I'm discreet even if I was going to have another A, to which he said: "Then I guess you're not very discreet telling me about it." (I'm not having another A BTW)
Part of me wants to call him now and clarify things and part of me would love to tell him to...well you can fill in the blank! Now I feel like crap again and I said I wouldn't say anything to him when he got home.
When will I EVER learn??!!
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No point in asking us that. It's all up to you and how much finger burning you can take everytime you touch that hot stove. Did you even read my reply to you in this thread? Hmmmmm...looks like it might have been ignored. ;-)
~Iddy~
Girl, where in the hell is your dignity?
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