Need Help to End this Affair

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2011
Need Help to End this Affair
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Sat, 01-22-2011 - 3:30pm

Where do I begin? 45 year old man married with kids and fell in love with a 27 year old employee. Dating for 5 months and now acting with her as I was 20. First few months I forgot what the real world was and acted childish. Married 15 years never had an affair and now how to relocate due to job change and left family behind. Here alone for 8 months and started to be friends with a younger woman. Went out a few time and fell in LOVE or LUST not sure. Treating wife different and when I went to visit my family for the holiday the GF started to acted different. The wow in our relationship stopped. Now I find myself acting like a child and told her that we need to take a break. Think I love her but reality is starting to hit home. Not because what I should be focusing on which is my family and that I am married, but because her and I are not acting the same. Sad to say that a few weeks ago I was even considering to get a separation and divorce. Now I am acting like a child. I know it's wrong but I feel into this toxic relationship. Can sleep can't eat and she is treating poorly. Instead of saying go to he'll I am married I am acting like a child. That's cause I fell for her and now she is starting to play games and apply pressure. Yes I know I am many women nightmare but I was never like that and as I said earlier I never had an affair until now.. What am I doing and what can I do to end this and start acting like an adult. I am really confused. Please help. I will provide additional information as needed but I am going crazy right now.. The good man that was is now acting like a loser. .

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2010
Sat, 01-22-2011 - 4:41pm

King,

welcome to the board - Please don't feel that no one is reading - it's the weekend, and weekend are invariably slow on this board.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Sat, 01-22-2011 - 5:33pm

It might help you to know that "all affairs end".

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2009
Sat, 01-22-2011 - 7:39pm

You have just received wonderful advice from two very wise women.

Not because what I should be focusing on which is my family and that I am married, but because her and I are not acting the same

This part concerns me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2010
Sun, 01-23-2011 - 3:53pm

Hi King,

Welcome to the board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Sun, 01-23-2011 - 8:35pm

Hi King,

Welcome to EAS.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-01-2010
Sun, 01-23-2011 - 11:24pm
I really can't add anything to the wisdom already said...but welcome to the board and take their advice. It's really the best thing you could do for everyone involved.
Love, Sunshine Dedicated to living my new life with integrity, truth and positive thoughts! I am worthy of true love and definitely worth the wait!
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2011
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 3:38am

I need to try and remember who I was before I began my affair,

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2010
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 7:47am

Peggy and Kingtaz, this poem is for you today:

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.