Need help, True, ladies! Need strength!

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Need help, True, ladies! Need strength!
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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 10:08pm

Help, ladies! I need some tough love. After all my progress, this evening we had to perform our little show for the world, except I didn't do the chit-chat banter we sometimes do to kill time, kept very straightforward when it came time for he and I to interact. As soon as the lights were down and people started walking out, he turned around and said, "I'm sorry I didn't call you back when you called to check on me. If it makes you feel better, I didn't call anyone." (he hurt his back and had to go to the hospital yesterday. I called to see how he was doing...like a big dummy...and he didn't take my call or call back.) I was very cold, didn't make eye contact with him and just shrugged and said I didn't even notice and that it was no big deal. (what a lie.) I then told him that I had handed over a project to someone else that we were supposed to do together. He looked a bit shocked (even a little pale, to my surprise) and said I could talk to him about it, and I said, no, there was nothing to talk about, I just thought it was best if he worked with this other person rather than me. Then I turned and walked out. Then, I had a meeting at the end of the day, and he walked in on our group, stood there and said he was just there to say hello. (By the way, he used to do this when we were together as a signal he wanted to see me afterward.) I did not take him up on it. I did not make an excuse and go out. I finished my meeting. Then, I was talking to one of my coworkers as we got ready to leave, and he walked up to us...I swear I think he winked at me...I didn't look back at him, just kept talking to her, and he turned and walked away and left.

Now I'm feeling like a cold-hearted witch. I am resisting the urge to email him to say something nice and friendly, like, "I'm glad you're feeling better," etc. Help!!!!!

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 10:25pm

Newsgal,


It's your lucky night :) I just signed back online to check something....OKAY, here it goes, 3, 2, 1......


DO NOT EMAIL HIM. DO NOT CALL HIM.


He is getting turned on by your "cold shoulder" treatment BIG TIME. The more you ignore him, reject him, dismiss him, the more he will push, prod, poke and BE ANNOYING. Comprende?


Do you want this over or not? I know you still have feelings for him, but wrap them up in toilet tissue and flush them down the can. Well, at least try to. You may need a plunger :)

 

 

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 10:26pm

Gal

What do you think you are going to accomplish by contacting him other then letting him get his foot back in the door of your life and letting him distract you from your husband and marriage.

Do you remember his other woman the one he has been making mush mush with in front of you do you remember the crap he pulled with your gay friend trying to harm your friendship do you remeber all the other crap he has been pulling, SO TELL US ALL WAY DO YOU WANT TO CONTACT THIS JERK.

Your not a cold hearted anything if you were none of his tricks would effect you at all, if you need to talk to a man go talk to your HUSBAND the one who gave you that wedding ring and showed his love by his actions before God and your families, what actions has OM taken other then to find ways to hurt you as of late.

Free

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 10:35pm

((((FREE))))


HIGH FIVE! Looks like we both hopped on our brooms and swept in PDQ to save another heartache setback....Geeesh, at least I hope so anyway. Are you listening Gal?????

 

 

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 10:45pm

TRUE

Someone must be looking out for Gal, I just logged back in to and noticed her post.

Gal HOPE YOUR LISTENING SOMEONE UP THERE SEEMS TO BE TAKING AN INTEREST IN YOU.

Free

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 10:47pm

Thank God for brooms! I had actually composed an email, repeating why I had handed off the project to someone else so I would not work with him and expressing sympathy for his back problems (very civil but not warm). I was just about to hit "send," when I thought, "I wonder what the ladies have said by now?" and checked your messages...and all I can say is

!!!!!!!THANK YOU!!!!!!!

I will not send it. I will close my email program and go to bed. (By the way, my husband is working out of town tonight.)

I will be strong tonight! I will feel better in the morning. (by the way, I DID look hot tonight! just kidding. never thought of myself that way!)

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 10:54pm

CHALK ONE UP FOR THE GOOD GUYS, WAY DA GO GIRL.

Booms, great now I am the the witch of the north, "HOOVER" I NEVER USE A BROOM TO MANY SPLINTERS UP THE BACK SIDE.

Free

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 11:29pm
Cute...a modern girl!
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Registered: 05-02-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 6:53am

Newsgal,


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BRAVO! Great news, News ;) I crawled into bed right after I emailed you so I didn't know if we got to you in time. Thank God. Free is right. Someone up there is watcing out for you, but realise you are the one who asked for help. That is the biggy in this situation. Just reaching out to us for support shows me that you really thought about what you were about to do, and wanted someone to stop the madness. It was YOUR strength called into play in NOT sending that message. I am very proud of you.


Trust me,