Need MAJOR support....I'm DONE for GOOD

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Need MAJOR support....I'm DONE for GOOD
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Thu, 10-29-2009 - 4:38pm

I’ve decided once and for all to finally end this thing, while it isn’t like many other stories I’ve read (we are not in love nor do we even do lunch or things of that sort) but I DO have feelings for him, care about him and the sexual attraction is AMAZING but I know I have to stop this. It has gone on for a year, which is a year too long and it needs and has to STOP.


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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 4:46pm

Hi LGA,


Sorry you are hurting. It's good that you are going to see a T. It will help tremedously getting through this especially since you work together.


We are here for you.


Much love and big, big hugs,


E1


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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 5:12pm

Hi LGA, congrats on making the decision to end the 'madness'. Cry if you want, sweetie, get the 'toxic' feelings out.

The T will help immensely to gain some perspective about the situation; you're a smart lady. Personally I think everyone needs some type of counseling when they get over an affair.

((((big hugs))))) you CAN do this, LGA!! Hang in there, we're here for you :) :)

trixie xo



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Registered: 10-04-2009
Thu, 10-29-2009 - 11:35pm

LGA-

Kudos to you on making this important and life changing decision. You are right that one year is a year too many. If left alone, it could go on forever and become messier each day. We're here for you when you need us. As someone who is at the four week mark of NC, I can tell you that ending the A is sad, difficult, challenging, but overall empowering and liberating. It feels good to take your life back!!!

((HUGS))

Gal

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 12-02-2007
Fri, 10-30-2009 - 3:32am

I haven't posted here in a long time.

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Fri, 10-30-2009 - 3:26pm

Thank all of you for your support, it means so much and I too have broke the NC laws but this time I am for real and know in my heart I’m letting this go.


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Registered: 08-21-2008
Sat, 10-31-2009 - 11:33am

Hi all...and especially LGA:


I am right there with you and can relate big time to the minute-by-minute struggle...mine lasted the same amount of time...in fact today would be our 1 year anniversary (!) if you can call it that...


I too am in therapy...and there's really nothing that I can really do except keep walking in this direction...and realize that I just don't know what I want. I have to try to heal from wanting a relationship of any sort with anyone.

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Sun, 11-01-2009 - 5:57am

Hello there,


I have not posted in a very long time, but

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Registered: 04-27-2008
Mon, 11-02-2009 - 3:44pm
Thanks for that reply. It helps me.