Need this out of my head....now!

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Registered: 02-28-2009
Need this out of my head....now!
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Wed, 10-07-2009 - 3:40am

I think I need to vent/rant or whatever

 

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Registered: 05-11-2003
Wed, 10-07-2009 - 9:10am

Kristin,


The best thing about T is that it is a safe place and you should be yourself. YOU should be able to say what you want, and if you are with a T who doesn't allow that, you are with the wrong person. I think it is a great idea. I have a T that I have been seeing for years--and, like you, should have gone more and earlier having grown up in a tumultuous environment with a parent's mental illness.


My T asked me "Are you happy in your marriage?" and the flood gate opened (I was still M, obviously...). Also, contrary to my normal MO, I had NO desire to be "friends" with my T (she is a woman and I would recommend that) and she was good about keeping that boundary--even if I would ask her a personal question.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Wed, 10-07-2009 - 9:23am

I agree with Loflov that it is important you find a therapist with whom you feel comfortable.


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Registered: 10-05-2009
Wed, 10-07-2009 - 10:08am

Kristin - I'm sorry for your pain.

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Registered: 10-29-2008
Wed, 10-07-2009 - 10:37am

I'd like to share with you that probably the only positive that came out of my nightmare situation is my therapist.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 10-07-2009 - 4:33pm

Hi Kristen,


From you post, it almost sounds like you think T is something that is done TO you.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 02-28-2009
Thu, 10-08-2009 - 12:26am

I know you are all right. I think I feel as if they will look at me and say your crazy and cart me off to the institution or something. If the shoe were on the other foot I would question a person's sanity for staying in this situation so it seems only fitting that a T would. I feel like something is telling me to go and the timing couldn't be better. My H works nights so I could get away during the daytime alone and we have insurance now. It is something I have thought about before but always talked myself out of. If I want to take back control of my life then this is something I must do. I guess I just needed some reassurance.


Thank you to everyone. I hope every single one of you know how much your advice and tough love helps.


Here is to 10 day complete NC. I actually marked it on my calendar this time. Is that weird? I am proud of myself for doing this.


 

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Thu, 10-08-2009 - 10:46am

Hi Kristin,


Congrats on 10 days NC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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That is part of the stigma that still surrounds psychologists and psychiatrist which is

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.