The best thing about T is that it is a safe place and you should be yourself. YOU should be able to say what you want, and if you are with a T who doesn't allow that, you are with the wrong person. I think it is a great idea. I have a T that I have been seeing for years--and, like you, should have gone more and earlier having grown up in a tumultuous environment with a parent's mental illness.
My T asked me "Are you happy in your marriage?" and the flood gate opened (I was still M, obviously...). Also, contrary to my normal MO, I had NO desire to be "friends" with my T (she is a woman and I would recommend that) and she was good about keeping that boundary--even if I would ask her a personal question.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
I know you are all right. I think I feel as if they will look at me and say your crazy and cart me off to the institution or something. If the shoe were on the other foot I would question a person's sanity for staying in this situation so it seems only fitting that a T would. I feel like something is telling me to go and the timing couldn't be better. My H works nights so I could get away during the daytime alone and we have insurance now. It is something I have thought about before but always talked myself out of. If I want to take back control of my life then this is something I must do. I guess I just needed some reassurance.
Thank you to everyone. I hope every single one of you know how much your advice and tough love helps.
Here is to 10 day complete NC. I actually marked it on my calendar this time. Is that weird? I am proud of myself for doing this.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Kristin,
The best thing about T is that it is a safe place and you should be yourself. YOU should be able to say what you want, and if you are with a T who doesn't allow that, you are with the wrong person. I think it is a great idea. I have a T that I have been seeing for years--and, like you, should have gone more and earlier having grown up in a tumultuous environment with a parent's mental illness.
My T asked me "Are you happy in your marriage?" and the flood gate opened (I was still M, obviously...). Also, contrary to my normal MO, I had NO desire to be "friends" with my T (she is a woman and I would recommend that) and she was good about keeping that boundary--even if I would ask her a personal question.
I agree with Loflov that it is important you find a therapist with whom you feel comfortable.
Kristin - I'm sorry for your pain.
I'd like to share with you that probably the only positive that came out of my nightmare situation is my therapist.
Hi Kristen,
From you post, it almost sounds like you think T is something that is done TO you.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
I know you are all right. I think I feel as if they will look at me and say your crazy and cart me off to the institution or something. If the shoe were on the other foot I would question a person's sanity for staying in this situation so it seems only fitting that a T would. I feel like something is telling me to go and the timing couldn't be better. My H works nights so I could get away during the daytime alone and we have insurance now. It is something I have thought about before but always talked myself out of. If I want to take back control of my life then this is something I must do. I guess I just needed some reassurance.
Thank you to everyone. I hope every single one of you know how much your advice and tough love helps.
Here is to 10 day complete NC. I actually marked it on my calendar this time. Is that weird? I am proud of myself for doing this.
Hi Kristin,
Congrats on 10 days NC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.