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|Thu, 04-19-2012 - 3:57pm|
I have a question for those who have had a D-Day. Does your H/W/SO still bring up xAP? It has been over 2 years since my D-Day and my H still has the tendency to bring it up occasionally. While I was still in the A it didn't really bother me, but now that I have ended it every time he mentions it I feel like I've been stabbed. He has brought it up 2 times in the 3 weeks since NC started. I don't think he is doing it maliciously, but it hurts nonetheless. Here are a couple of examples:
#1 He saw xAPs wife on his "People you may know" on FB and he asked me why she would be there when they have no friends in common. I told him I believe it is b/c he still has the messages they sent back and forth.
#2 He referred to something that happened in the midst of my A and I responded with "I don't remember that" to which he said "Oh, it must have been during the (insert xAPs name here) phase".
I was just wondering if anyone else has had this problem, if so how they handled it. Did you talk to your H/W/SO about it or just deal with it?
P.S. I have been having really bad withdrawals for the last few days. They are so intense. This is the worst they've been since I first initiated NC. I haven't done anything stupid yet, but I am fighting hard. :(