Need some input

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Need some input
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Sun, 11-07-2004 - 2:07pm
It's now been 2 days since NC. (The longest we've ever gone). But I've come across a little dilemma and need your help. I think you remember that I am good "friends" with MM's W. Well she called me today to tell me that their 5 year old daughter (we adore eachother) is having surgery on Tues. I have to do something to acknowledge that fact that I'm thinking about her while she's healing. I was just gonna send balloons but I'm afraid MM is going to think that the only reason I did it was to see if he would contact me, which I don't want. So I'm thinking it might be a better idea to bring her a teddy bear or something when I know he is at work and I won't run into him. That way, when his W tells him I stopped by, he will realize that I did it purposely at the time I knew I wouldn't see him. I also can't warn his W that I'm stopping over cuz she would think nothing of telling him "oh, C is on her way over", and he would probably come home to bump into me. I hate that this feels like such a game. I really don't want it to be. But I think it would be rude to not do something, when she's been such a big part of my life. If anyone can think of a better idea, let me know. I really don't want contact with MM, even seeing his W and DD, and being in his house now will kill me as it is. Thank you!!!
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In reply to: pal1214
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 3:35pm
Why not send the balloons or a card to their DD? ExMM will see the ballooons and/or card are addressed to his daughter and not some secret signal.

Remember, he's far more worried about his daughter than about what's no longer happening with you two.

If you've effectively blocked all his methods of communication he CAN'T contact you so nothing to worry about. Right?

The only reason to go around to exMM's house is because you want to do so.

Don't fall into the trap of finding reasons.

Begin making your distance. And work on keeping it.

Wishing you strength & peace,

Posie