Need some strength this morning

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Need some strength this morning
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 8:44am
Well I was so proud of myself for not anwering his calls yesterday, but then he e-mailed me this morning. All it said was " Just wanted to say thank you for (dd's) balloons and "love me" bear. You are truly a sweetheart."

If that's all he wanted to tell me, why couldn't he have just left it on my voicemail when he called? Is he trying to get me to contact him? I was thinking of just leaving him a text message that just says "you're welcome! Sorry for not taking your calls. Hope you understand." Would that be a bad idea? I think I'm weakening. I need help!!!
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Registered: 11-06-2004
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 8:51am
GM Pal, I am here for you, plus needing the extra support I want to phone him today an ask what he wanted? WE CANT. I just thank gawd he cant email me. DELETE DELETE. You sent them to his D not him so yes it was nice of him to acknowledge them an say thanks an so did his W so leave it at that an DO NOT appologize for NOT taking his call. HE has to understand whether he does or not is his problem to deal with you have to do whats best for you. And calling him is not it ( trust me I want to as well ) but the minute I hear his voice I will loose it an spend all day in bed crying, have to much to do today to do that to myself. PLease be strong hun I am well in a sense holding your hand just dont let go of mine you are to close to my own situation same feelings an such WE WILL GET THRU TODAY.!!!!!!

Huggs,

KRM

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 8:59am
Krm,

I won't do it if you don't do it!!! I hate this. It's so hard. Everyone keeps saying don't call, don't call. If he wants you back he'll call you. Well what if you're not taking those calls? How will you know he wants you back? I don't want to play games with him. I don't want him to decide, "well she's moved on so I'll give up". Gonna be a tough day.Don't want to disappoint anyone, including myself, so I'll try to stay strong. You with me??

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Registered: 11-06-2004
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 9:15am
I AM RIGHT HERE WITH YOU..WE CAN DO THIS ...We may burn up this board all day if we have to an my journal is 3 pages long today HAHA..an I am sure we will go from feeling weak, to sad, mad, glad,an whatever else we can think up..If ya were just closer we could go sit at Starbucks an cry in our coffee..HUGGS...KRM
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 9:16am
Hiya Pal,

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I remember well all the justifications I gave myself for taking the calls and they weren't dissimilar to your own. I remember I lasted 5mos before I caved BIG time, too.

Honey, don't worry about not taking a call that says he wants you back. He knows how you feel, Pal. Presumably he even knows where you live. If he really, REALLY wanted you to know something as important as that, he'd find a way of moving heaven and earth in order that you got the message.

Hey! I won't call mine if you won't call yours, deal? ;)

Wishing you strength & peace,

Posie

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Registered: 07-08-2003
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 9:47am
Hi Pal! When XMM and I first ended it, he sent me a bunch of gifts which I never acknowledged. I felt that I was being so rude. I mean, wouldn't a person with any social grace whatsoever at least call and say thank you???? On the advice of everyone on this board, I didn't call. And a good friend pointed out that his gifts was purely manipulation - an attempt to force me to contact him. He figured I'd do the right thing and call him to say thanks.

Don't make the call, honey. As much as you're struggling now, it'll be much worse if you open yourself to any other conversations with him. Think about it - if it was anyone else, would you really call them to thank them for calling and leaving a message to thank you for a gift???? Probably not. Who has that kind of time?????

Burn the board up if you must. Just don't call him. We're here for you. Love, Mo.

mo 7-18-10