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| Sat, 06-25-2005 - 3:18pm |
About three weeks ago I posted a message on this board and the replies I got were wonderful. However the people who replied assumed that he was the one who was the pursuer. He wasn’t, I was. It was rather embarrassing and I felt like I had no self respect left so I didn’t listen to the advice given. I’ve kept going after him even though he told me 3 months ago…no more. I’ve done a little bit of everything to get his attention and I’ve gotten a little. I’ll admit that little, felt so very good. I even had a birthday party for him the other night. I convinced myself I was doing it as a way for me to end things. One nice thing…not sexual at all and then I’d let him go. He’d have nice thoughts of me and I’d have nice thoughts of him. Well, he didn’t stay very long, never said thanks or even see ya later. I feel very pathetic. I want to tell him I deserve better. It really hurts. I really do want to stop going after him but it’s so hard.

If you're the pursuer and you've been asked to stop any more contact, and you continue to do so, do you think your actions could be interpreted as disrespectful and selfish?
The affair is over. No need to keep creating drama in your life.
Or his.
If you keep continuing the unwanted contacts, there is a possibility you'll be receiving an official court document labeled "Order of Protection". Or you may be arrested for stalking the man.
Please, please, please, stop calling or contacting your ex. If you need to talk, call your counselor or post here.
Sure beats a police and/or court (public) record.......
cl-nre
I believe you will get plenty of encouragement from this board. No matter how much encouragement we give you, the bottom line, in my opinion, remains with you. YOU must decide for yourself that you WILL not participate in self-degradation any longer.........
So what's your choice and your plan?
cl-nre
Have you tried visualizing how cold the stainless steel toilets are in the lock-up for violating a TRO? Perhaps that might help you to stop seeing "him" and see yourself and consequences.......
cl-nre
P.S. You CAN stop. Seeing him is YOUR choice. so is YOUR reaction: YOUR choice....