You are making a good decision for yourself and your marriage. His feelings are not a contributing factor in any way. This is a fresh start for you and your new life without the deceit, hiding, and stress of the A. You can do this for you!!!
You are making the right decisions for your sanity right now. A D Day would be horrific!! You do not want to experience that hun.
First off, welcome to the board. Stalk anytime. ;-)
Actually I find it an excellent idea to take another job and I commend you for taking the first big step. Yes, you are going to feel out of sorts about it for a bit, but this too shall pass. It's about you and your family now, and by doing this your actions are saying, "I am sorry and I will prove it you."
I am proud of your for being pro-active. You know you are in a lose, lose situation and are doing something about it. Pat yourself on the back because I most certainly am. Also, I hope you stick around and stalk us some more but mostly for buiding up your resolve and to keep moving forward.
Oh, and you can post in anytime. ;-) I am most fond of those who know they've taken the wrong road and do something about it.
Are not taking the job in order to stay close to AP? It is best to get away if you can. If you don't think LC is going to work...go somewhere else.
You thought of an excuse....shouldn't be an excuse..should be you don't want to take it. No excuse in that. Be careful you are not rethinking in order to maintain contact with AP. Seems you might be trying hun. Can totally relate wanting to maintain some form of contact but won't help a bit. Will only cause more hurt for you and allow him to maintain control.
You are making a good decision for yourself and your marriage. His feelings are not a contributing factor in any way. This is a fresh start for you and your new life without the deceit, hiding, and stress of the A. You can do this for you!!!
You are making the right decisions for your sanity right now. A D Day would be horrific!! You do not want to experience that hun.
Take care and be strong!!!
Hope
First off, welcome to the board. Stalk anytime. ;-)
Actually I find it an excellent idea to take another job and I commend you for taking the first big step. Yes, you are going to feel out of sorts about it for a bit, but this too shall pass. It's about you and your family now, and by doing this your actions are saying, "I am sorry and I will prove it you."
I am proud of your for being pro-active. You know you are in a lose, lose situation and are doing something about it. Pat yourself on the back because I most certainly am. Also, I hope you stick around and stalk us some more but mostly for buiding up your resolve and to keep moving forward.
Oh, and you can post in anytime. ;-) I am most fond of those who know they've taken the wrong road and do something about it.
((Hugs))
~Iddy~
You are doing the right thing!
You are doing the right thing.
Are not taking the job in order to stay close to AP? It is best to get away if you can. If you don't think LC is going to work...go somewhere else.
You thought of an excuse....shouldn't be an excuse..should be you don't want to take it. No excuse in that. Be careful you are not rethinking in order to maintain contact with AP. Seems you might be trying hun. Can totally relate wanting to maintain some form of contact but won't help a bit. Will only cause more hurt for you and allow him to maintain control.
Think it through....
Take care
Hope