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| Fri, 10-30-2009 - 5:11pm |
September 26th was Dday. He wife found out.
We are co-workers who have been involved for over 2yrs.
I will tell my story on my next post, but the long and short of it is that its not much different than what everyone else has said has happened to them.
And while my heart was broken beyond belief , I have found a great deal of solace reading the posts here...thank you so much.
Well back to my situation. After dday he took two weeks off work, supposedly to be with his dying father, but I later found out it was two weeks vac to be with his wife. He then came back to work off and on while visiting his father.The few days he was at work

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Ok today was the day from He**. It has left me physically and emotionally spent.
I have a large window that looks out into the work area and he spent
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As difficult as yesterday was, you did a great job at protecting your heart. Making yourself unavailable, as hard as it is at the workplace, is adamant in your healing. The less contact, the less chance of his zapping your strength with words that no longer hold merit; except for his apology...that was a good thing although you may not realize it right now. You are both going to feel sadness as it comes with the territory, but grieving the end of an affair is all part of the healing process. Hopes and dreams were shattered, but you will learn as time passes they were all part of the fantasy we had created in our minds. A real relationship can never be nurtured on lies and deceit.
Controlling those wildly swinging thoughts is normal because your mind has so much to sift through. Once reality and fantasy collide, the mental collision can be excruciating. It will take time and distance to sort through all the muck that the aftermath leaves in it's path. Figuring out what was real and what wasn't, you will learn, is really a waste of precious time, but all of us have gone through this maze of confusion.
Take it one day at a time, my dear. Post here whenever you feel the need or just want to vent. Anger will probably rear it's ugly head too, and has a way of striking when least expected, and we will be here to help you through this part of the process too.
Wishing you strength today,
Iddy
Iddy
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