NEED SUPPORT TODAY!!!! HELP ME

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Registered: 12-05-2003
NEED SUPPORT TODAY!!!! HELP ME
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Fri, 09-17-2004 - 4:50pm
I usually post on the other board and they all are so supportive. I need to get on with my life. I don't know what it is lately but I think of OM ever second,minute of each day.

I was doing so good almost 3months NC and all of a sudden I just want to see if he is okay. I know, I know just and excuse to talk. I really am depressed about this but know it will only go back to the same roller coaster it was for so so long....BOOO HOOOO

I'm a basket case..HELP SOUL
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 4:59pm
HI Soul

It tends to be pretty quit he on a friday afternoon or evening so don't give up heart if you do not here a whole lot today OK.

Hon your going throw a round of withdrawl, it is normal it happens to everyone sooner or later after ending an affair so don't let it worry you to much.

If you refuse to cave in it will happen less and less often over time and with less intensity as you weaken the addiction, so don't give up becasue if you do your going to end up back at square one again and have to start all over.

TOTAL NO CONTACT is the only proven way to get the healing going so please stick with it for your sake, you don't want to go throw this crap all over again do you.

YOU ARE STRONG BELIEVE IT

Free

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Registered: 12-05-2003
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 5:12pm
Thanks free, Your 100% right I dont want to go through that way. Shoot why can't my heart feel that way? Have a great weekend I'm going for a walk to get this out of my mind!

Bye now...
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Registered: 06-28-2004
Fri, 09-17-2004 - 11:33pm

Hi Soul,


You've definately come to the right place. I know you are in pain now, but you will go through many stages before you heal. Just try to see things a little more clearly and know that every heartache brings you one step closer to being free. We are here for you always. Stay strong, and believe in no contact- it's the only thing that will keep you from getting mixed up in something so unhealthy again. You can do this and we are here to help/


Love, Lily

Love, Lily PG with #1 EDD 11/23 baby
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 8:57am
Soul

I probably can't offer you anything productive but I do know how you feel and wishing you the best!

Bria

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 2:29pm
Soul, Free is right, it's all part of the withdrawal cycle. And for some reason the 2-3 month NC mark seems to be a tough time for a lot of people. But the LAST thing you need is to start this whole cycle over again, so work through it. The urge will pass, and it will be much easier to deal with the next time it hits you!

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Registered: 12-05-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 11:02am
Thank you all for your support. I had a hard weekend and husband knew somthing was wrong but I just said I wasn't feeling well. This 3rd month has been the worst. I hear ever song that reminds me of him so I have turned the radio off every where. I know this will pass too. Thank you all and I will be around.

Soul