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| Mon, 11-08-2004 - 12:58pm |
I posted here about 3-4 weeks ago asking whether or not to let my xMM's wife know he was lying to her about the duration and depth of our A. Most of you said absolutely not and I have followed your advice so far. But now I have an update.
I had told my daughter about my A because xMM said his wife might come over or call me and I wanted my daughter to know this might happen. It never did, but in the meantime, my daughter told her best friend and I felt I needed to tell my other two children (all our children, mine and his, are adults). Anyway, my daughter's best friend is kind and sweet but I'm not sure she'll keep this secret and I'm afraid now that xMM's son will find out about A from old school friends. All these kids went to school together to a small Catholic private school. I know that many of them still see each other socially and sometimes just by coincidence. I wrote xMM and told him what had happened and encouraged him to tell his W so she could explain to their kids. So far, I don't believe he has. I also know that they both believe no one should know anything and they have not confided in anyone about the problems they are having. It's sad that she doesn't even have a single friend or sister to talk to. I know that she would want to know and protect her kids from gossip as I have protected mine. Do I tell her??
I had told my daughter about my A because xMM said his wife might come over or call me and I wanted my daughter to know this might happen. It never did, but in the meantime, my daughter told her best friend and I felt I needed to tell my other two children (all our children, mine and his, are adults). Anyway, my daughter's best friend is kind and sweet but I'm not sure she'll keep this secret and I'm afraid now that xMM's son will find out about A from old school friends. All these kids went to school together to a small Catholic private school. I know that many of them still see each other socially and sometimes just by coincidence. I wrote xMM and told him what had happened and encouraged him to tell his W so she could explain to their kids. So far, I don't believe he has. I also know that they both believe no one should know anything and they have not confided in anyone about the problems they are having. It's sad that she doesn't even have a single friend or sister to talk to. I know that she would want to know and protect her kids from gossip as I have protected mine. Do I tell her??

Just curious,
~True~
You may possibly want to let her know it is no longer a secret but other then that nothing else
JMHO
Free
long run, the W will be grateful if she knows that others are aware of situation. I will keep you all in the loop.
Hugs ((( )))
maria