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| Sat, 02-12-2005 - 6:37pm |
Well it has been 11 days of NC with XMM.. I am still having good and bad moments not full days, which I guess is a good thing. *SIGHS* however my deliema starts tonight as I have said my XMM and I run in the same circle of friends for almost 3 weeks I have managed to hold the wolves at bay and decline offers out to avoid running into him an his wife. I have had call after call today DEMANDING I make my self present LOL..I do miss my friends and I can not make myself a hermit, so I have decided to go tonight and have a good time. This sounds all good in theory my fear is when "THEY" walk in together, I am mixed between will I play it off and pretend to not notice, and try to hide my still healing wounds, or do I run out the door..well not run but walk briskly. PLEASE any one with advice. I know its going to be like pouring salt in an open cut but in the same sense it heals its to right ? Now or never thing? I mean its not right for me to have to change friends an familiar places for fear of "them" . I know other have the same and worse they have to work with thier exes..How do you do it ? Any secrets? anything.. I am almost to the point of cancelling..HELP..

hi krm,
i just suck it up, wheni got divorce, my friends are my ex wifes friends too but i still go out with them, i see her and she see me and we are civil, i know it is not the same but maybe u can sit on the opposite end of the table so to speak, do not talk to him and dont drink any alcohol or u might say something not for the public ear
u have to go out, maybe next time, do a pre-emptive strike and invite only a few frinds sans MM and his wife, do this so u dont miss your friends
i realy have no advice since i have not been in that situation, but i would go and just avoid talking to them, im sure u can do it
max
Thanks Max, I am sucking it up so to speak LOL, I have read most of your post I hope things are looking better. Funny this didnt and doesnt happen with my ex husband but in that case I was way past ready to leave in this case I wasnt sure what I wanted I was torn between doing the right thing and enjoying the wrong thing ( curses my grandmother for raising me with morals LOL) have to keep a sense of humor here. I'm actually fostering some false sense of empowerment I look really good tonight maybe the rest has done me good haha..SO off to the fire pit.. Wish me luck I will probably be up here tomorrow posting that I either had a wonderful night ( HOPES AND CROSSES FINGERS)..Best of wishes to all..
KRM
hi krm,
hope u have a good time tonite, let us know what happened and how u felt and dealed with it, maybe we can learn from your experience, life is full of experiences
take care and hope u have fun ( no pun intended) ;)
max