I feel for you, I know what your going through is very difficult an emotional roller coaster. You got to be strong.
I truly think he is starting a fresh with someone else and is going through the new feelings again.... him not talking to you is him keeping you on stand by incase that realtionship does not work or maybe she won't be availble one day. It only makes sence to me.... He does not want to have to explain to you anything the best way to do it is to avoid you.
I think you should send him an email asking to have no futher contact with you ever.
You seem like your in a great marriage work on it, if anything this man has shown you to be stronger not weaker... Don't wait around for him. He is bad news.
One thing that you wrote, made me laugh: "(...) .... xAP, coming to work somedays looking like he's been through a war, dirty hair not combed - things like that... "
Did you already make a list of all the things he did that you did not like? It helps to see things for what they really are. I have several lists, sometimes I write down all the things he hurt me with... or all the things I did not really like about him...
Lists can be helpful to REMIND you of things.
(now, don't make a list "what I like about my xAP", okay? ;-))
Mine is a neighbor, too. How have things been going since you ended it? Are you friends, too, or just neighbors? I don't know how this will play out. Today I feel like I want to move!
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I feel for you, I know what your going through is very difficult an emotional roller coaster. You got to be strong.
I truly think he is starting a fresh with someone else and is going through the new feelings again.... him not talking to you is him keeping you on stand by incase that realtionship does not work or maybe she won't be availble one day. It only makes sence to me.... He does not want to have to explain to you anything the best way to do it is to avoid you.
I think you should send him an email asking to have no futher contact with you ever.
You seem like your in a great marriage work on it, if anything this man has shown you to be stronger not weaker... Don't wait around for him. He is bad news.
Hi and welcome to EAS
Sorry you are here, but glad you found us.
I think his flirtations infront of you are his way of showing you it is over...vs...have to say the actual words.
Hi Canidothis (yes you can! ;-))
One thing that you wrote, made me laugh:
"(...) .... xAP, coming to work somedays looking like he's been through a war, dirty hair not combed - things like that... "
Did you already make a list of all the things he did that you did not like? It helps to see things for what they really are. I have several lists, sometimes I write down all the things he hurt me with... or all the things I did not really like about him...
Lists can be helpful to REMIND you of things.
(now, don't make a list "what I like about my xAP", okay? ;-))
HUGS!
I am so grateful for your understanding here.
Clarity, thank you for a wonderful post.
How to get out - I hope you found your way?
Thank you for the compliment :)
I don't want you to think I am picking on you, but you said you were up for reality checks :)
Hey canidothis,
I am still struggling here (he's neighbor) and it's tough. But I am hoping to see the light at the end of the tunnel one day.
HUGS!
Hi qiqat,
If you want to, you can email me, you can click on my name and then you'll get to the email options.
hugs
htgo
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