never had sex but still hurting,

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Registered: 10-04-2003
never had sex but still hurting,
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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 4:00pm
Well I've been here before, last fall i think. I have this huge crush on this guy at work. He knows it, we have been flirting alot and eventually it came out that he was also attracted to me as well. I am married with 2 kids. In the very beginning he had said "If You werent married with kids I know we could go out and have a good time, but you are" We did go out twice when the sneaking around part got to be to much for him. He said it had to end. We still continued to talk and flirt at work and email each other. I tried to see him but he turned me down every time. Claiming it was the right thing to do. I still managed to fall for him. And now I am hurting because I kept hoping for something to happen. I know I need to stop emailing him and I am trying to now. He is in his last semester of college. and he is 20 yrs younger than me. I guess thats what was so flattering about all of it. In the beginning I just wanted to see if I could get his attention, and I did. He is a very quite, smart young man that comes from a good family. I'm crazy about him. Eventually he will leave our workplace for a better job. And I know it will hurt. I can't seem to make my marriage any better. I just cringe when my hubby wants to be intimate with me. That has been going on for some 8yrs now. way before any of this happened. I have been sleeping on the couch for a year now. i don't know, I just needed to vent. I wanted the fairytale ending. I fantasized about that sort of stuff. But I need to try this time. Last weekend I had all to my self and gave him the option to call me and get together and he never did. When I saw him at work he said "sorry" I said "what for" " because you know it hurt my feelings". So enough of making a fool of myself. I'm going to try not to email him. But I can't do nothing about work. I can't ignore him. He has done nothing to lead me on. I actually cried a good cry on the weekend. Now i must hold it all in. The only times he has emailed me is in response to a question I asked him. Oh well enough of my rambling on. I decided to come back here for some support.
Thanks all for listening.
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Registered: 03-13-2004
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 4:49pm

thank your lucky stars u didnot have sex with and he is a true gentleman for not giving in to your advances, u should be lucky that he did not take it when u offered it

just my 2 cents, but your are in a much better position than me and most of us her, i know the attention is addicting but its not love

focus on work or just post here when u feel like sending him and email, i too am working with OW and she ended it so im dealing with it no matter how hard it is for me to do

take care of yourself
max
i have no clue what im doing in the office, i feel like a robot