new and need some help

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2004
new and need some help
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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 11:12am
Hi ladies I am new to this message board and just needed a little help. I had been in an ema in the summer and ended it a few months ago I just stopped calling him and he had no way to reach me due to a job change he would call me at my job, after I changed jobs I never called him again. Well what a small world I work for an insurance co and he has his insurance with the agency I work for. I was given a list of clients to call and why me he was on my list I had to call and thank goodness I got the machine but he came in and I was out sick that day, he ended up calling back and what luck I answered the phone and he starts talking to me and saying how he thought we were friends and I told him I would call him after I got settled in, and I did say that I just thought it would be better to just leave it in the past we were just fwb not really in love like some people just a friendship with other stuff going on sometimes and we both were pretty happy with our situations we just had a strong attraction and friendship. He asked me to meet him for drinks sometime soon.I just am so confused right now I have missed him so much but I am not sure part of me wants to see him and the other part says no way. Please help I need a little advise.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2004
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 11:28am
hello whattodo! My suggestion would be to remind yourself of the reasons why you decided to end the A to begin with. Are those reasons still important to you? Do they still make sense? If so -- stick with 'em! I've realized from this board that No Contact is the *only* way to move on. If you start talking or meeting for drinks, it will be so easy to get sucked back into the ema again, and then you'll just have to go through all of this all over again someday!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2004
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 1:41pm
Thanks for responding to my message. I know you are right.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 10:05pm
HI What

I agree with Katie, NO CONTACT is the ownly way to go, he has only one motive in trying to get together with you and it is not real friendship.

You play with fire long enough and you get burnt.

F