New to the board - needing support
Find a Conversation
|Sat, 03-29-2003 - 5:33pm|
The other man is my husband's uncle. He is also married. I have fallen in love with him, and he with me. He is also my best friend, my mentor AND my boss at work. (Can this situation get any more complicated?)
My marriage is terrible and if there is any hope of saving my marriage, I need to quit seeing uncle. There are a lot of complicating factors in this situation. One is hubby and I have NEVER had a good sex life. I no longer desire him at all, and am sick of not getting my needs met. And yes, he and I have had *many* discussions about sexuality. We are just polar opposites. Sexually people can make adjustments to some degree, but we are so incompatible that the very middle of the middle ground wouldn't make either of us happy.
So that makes it all the harder to want to give up this amazing sex life with uncle. Plus the fact that I'm doubting my marriage will work anyway.
I know I'm rambling. There's just so much involved in this situation and I can't possibly put it in one posting. Short story is I need to quit seeing the man I love, and focus on rebuilding my marriage (with a husband I resent and am so hurt by).
Feels like ending the affair means giving up the brightest spot in my life. How do you do that? Has anyone given up the one they love to focus on an ugly marriage and felt HAPPY about it? I'm needing some hope here because I'm running out of it and need motivation to make this decision and stick with it.
Thanks for listening.