I am going to try to be gentle, but this sucks...sucks really bad, and you are at the very, very beginning. Long road ahead. Long.
I do not think that the 48 hour rule applies to you just yet. You are in the midst of withdrawl... In a few weeks, after your body and spirit have gone thru those initial withdrawls, then the 48 rule will kick in.
Right now you have to try to get thru the next couple of days, then weeks, and then you can worry about the 48 hour rule. I am speaking from your end. If he contacts you. Then come here and post and DO NOT RESPOND and then we can get u threw the next 48 hours and hopefully by then you will not be so inclined to respond.
What's going to change anyway? So why bother breaking NC? I really think you should block all avenues of communication. All of em. U need to let this go. and begin to take your life back.
The trick with the 48 hour rule is tomorrow at 9 a.m., you have to NOT contact him. And when you feel the urge at 9:01 a.m., tell yourself, OK I won't do anything for 48 hours. Every single time you feel like reaching out in any way, tell yourself that you will take 48 hours to think about it. Same thing if he contacts you - don't respond, don't answer.
Luvin is right - you have to take it one day at a time right now. Trust me, nothing is going to change if you talk to him.
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Garfy
NC since 13 September 2010 and trying to feel great...
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I am going to try to be gentle, but this sucks...sucks really bad, and you are at the very, very beginning. Long road ahead. Long.
I do not think that the 48 hour rule applies to you just yet. You are in the midst of withdrawl... In a few weeks, after your body and spirit have gone thru those initial withdrawls, then the 48 rule will kick in.
Right now you have to try to get thru the next couple of days, then weeks, and then you can worry about the 48 hour rule. I am speaking from your end. If he contacts you. Then come here and post and DO NOT RESPOND and then we can get u threw the next 48 hours and hopefully by then you will not be so inclined to respond.
What's going to change anyway? So why bother breaking NC? I really think you should block all avenues of communication. All of em. U need to let this go. and begin to take your life back.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Welcome Mom G :)
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The trick with the 48 hour rule is tomorrow at 9 a.m., you have to NOT contact him. And when you feel the urge at 9:01 a.m., tell yourself, OK I won't do anything for 48 hours. Every single time you feel like reaching out in any way, tell yourself that you will take 48 hours to think about it. Same thing if he contacts you - don't respond, don't answer.
Luvin is right - you have to take it one day at a time right now. Trust me, nothing is going to change if you talk to him.
Stay strong - your life is worth it.
Bodhi
Garfy
NC since 13 September 2010 and trying to feel great...
Fate d
Garfy
NC since 13 September 2010 and trying to feel great...
Fate d
Garfy
NC since 13 September 2010 and trying to feel great...
Fate d
Mom-garfy,
I am in your same shoes - and reading this board right along with you.
I'm sorry it took me so long to get back to you; I haven't been able to do anything on the board for the last couple days except some quick reading.
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