New here and I need your honest opinion

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Registered: 01-28-2004
New here and I need your honest opinion
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Fri, 01-30-2004 - 6:54pm
Ok to start off with I am a 22 married mother of one my son is 2. My husband and I have been together for about 5 years. I practically talked him into marrying me when I was pregnant. Now I think he is the most boring person! He is 27 and acts 60. I am at the point in my life that if he doen't want to go out with me, then I want to go out with my girlfriends. Well I ended up seeing this guy I knew from my best friend. They dated about a year ago. We always flirted with eachother but nothing ever came of it. then about a month ago when I saw him I accepted one of his many invitations to hang out. To make it short and simple We now talk on a daily basis as well as see eachother almost daily. I think actually i know that i am falling for this guy. He is also married and I feel jealous of his wife. HELP!
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 01-30-2004 - 10:11pm

Welcome. You're in the right place.


May I suggest to you that before you get in any deeper with MM, think about what is really the issue and why MM is in your life in the first place. There's a dynamic in your marriage that starting to grow. ANd how would you feel if hubby started chatting up another woman? Talk to hubby......


Is your husband willing to go to counseling with you to improve communication between the two of you? If so, great. If not, go without him. Being parents of a 2 year old boy is a big change from the life you and hubby had before. And it does tire you out, even if you're young and energetic 20 somethings. I know. I remember my four kids and how much they tired my ex-W and I out. Communication got to be very strained. Not to mention being tired and us turning into our parents (read:fuddy-duddies).


I suggest that your conversations with MM either cease ASAP or keep the topics of discussion limited to those that you would have in the presence of your husband. And don't hide your new-found friendship from hubby. That's cheating, too. It may seem thrilling at first, but underneath it really gets eating at your insides over the long haul.


Bring it to a halt. Get talking with hubby. Get a babysitter for a night and go out on a date with hubby. You two will change a lot as you get older. Learn now to adapt to the changes and enjoy each other's company. You can have a wonderful time and life together.


Take care and keep in touch here as needed,


cl-nre