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New here and need some help...
| Fri, 03-25-2011 - 12:49am |
Hi, I am new and I am not sure where to post my situation but this seems like a good place to start since I am really feeling so much better thanks to this board.
I ended a four month affair (only one month physical) 2 weeks ago, well I ended it during a texting conversation but tried to backpedal right away but he was done with me.

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Oh and i have no idea how to use this board, I reply and it posts it right under my old post??!!!
And where is this "healing library"????
You feel like you lost something great because your body is addicted to the "feel goods" of the A and is craving another fix to ease the pain of withdrawal. Those feelings will pass, but I'm afraid there is no magic switch, you just need to be patient with yourself.
You already understand that no good can come from contacting his wife. It's not your place to contact her and is only likely to backfire and hurt you more than him. She will see his true colours one day, and when that happens you don't want to be the one caught in the crossfire. The best you can do right now is to take care of yourself and your family.
Big hugs
Kat
In reading through these boards and posts I see people on here that are struggling after 9 months, 18 months, 3 years... OMG!
I'm coming up to 10 weeks NC on Monday and I cannot believe the difference EAS has made in my life. I'll never be the person I was before, but I think the new me is going to be better. :)
Let me know if you managed to find the Healing Library? Iddy and others will probably be able to give you better directions if mine didn't work. Look out for a post called "would you sign this?" which is one of my favourites.
Sunshine and smiles
Kat
Hi Kat, 10 weeks, wow!
I've been M to a wonderful man for 12 years and we have three kids who were all under 5 when the A started. xAP is older, very confident, knows exactly what he wants, beautiful W and children, and a high profile job. He has had at least one other A and I'm sure there will be more. He lives in another city (my old home town), so most of our relationship involved texts and emails. I travel to his city for work a couple of times a month which was hard in those early weeks but gets a little easier each time I have to do it.
After our kids were born my self-confidence and sense of self took a dive, and I had started to lose my connection with my H. An A seemed like such a tempting fix for both problems, but really it just made them so much worse. Thanks to EAS I feel like I'm finally back on the right track, but still have a long way to go.
I have so much respect for the women here who work with their xAPs and manage to maintain LC. If you talk to women like Iddy and Never you'll see that it is possible, though you have to be constantly on guard.
Hope the rest of your day goes well. Another day closer to strength and serenity. :)
TTBT,
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