New here and need some help...

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Registered: 03-24-2011
New here and need some help...
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Fri, 03-25-2011 - 12:49am

Hi, I am new and I am not sure where to post my situation but this seems like a good place to start since I am really feeling so much better thanks to this board.

I ended a four month affair (only one month physical) 2 weeks ago, well I ended it during a texting conversation but tried to backpedal right away but he was done with me.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Tue, 03-29-2011 - 11:36pm
I only have a second n will chime in a lot more later in more than a few threads...

Vets remember. We will never forget the pain we put ourselves in. The pain we put our children n families in. We remember. N we stay here n pay it forward. I am not speaking to you...just wanted to let u know, we support but do not coddle you. We know what works. It often means we come off as insensitive but we are far from it. We still have remnants of our A's that shatter are core, we shutter when we think of the horrible things we did in pure selfish cake eating greed. But we stayed the course and are now here to see you thru. To support you.

You help us just as much as we help you. U remind us of what that horrid pain that ya think is going to kill you feels like and you make us stay the course...make us realize how easy it is to slip back....

So please know that we do not forget. We simply move on and you can too! Listen n read...stay and post.

Iddy is your biggest resource. She is our in house LC hero...there are others, but none the wiser than her round these parts...you want her on your team. The few vets here are great...me included. Have some faith in us and the great number of regulars n you will make friends for life....

We never forget....we just move on...
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Wed, 03-30-2011 - 12:08am

Almost time for me to pick up my kids from school, so just a few quick thoughts:

1. I think we all felt "cheap, dirty, and discarded" in those early days, regardless of which side of the ending we were on. As Mom Garfy used to say to me, throughout our lives we get to choose whether we feed our "anger, envy, sorrow, regret, self-pity, false pride and ego" or whether we feed our

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 03-30-2011 - 10:25am

TTBT,

I echo what Katniss wrote, especially this:

I know it's hard for you to believe this now, but your xAP is doing you a huge favour but walking away and staying away.

Yes, rejection is a hard pill to swallow, but realizing the source of that rejection could help to ease the pain. XJAM is NOT the man you thought he was and you will come to understand this in time. He played a role so he could easily manipulate you, and being vulnerable, (which many of us were pre-A), can be spotted a mile away. Professional cheaters can smell the blood of

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 03-24-2011
Wed, 03-30-2011 - 2:31pm
Oh my goodness Iddy, your words came at the best time. Right at this very moment I am listening to him socialize & charm everyone else here at work & I am reading your comments for the first time. I will survive this, I will survive this...

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