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|Wed, 04-02-2003 - 1:25pm|
I'm 32 and recently ended an affair that ran for about a year. The man I was involved with has been contacting me via email and the occasional voicemail. I was replying to his notes, but for about 3 weeks now I have not contacted him in any way. His last email indicated he would like to get together for coffee and "talk, clear the air" etc. and that he wanted me to be honest with him. In the past, when I have agreed to meet and "talk" it usually ends up in a 2 hour confused discussion with me getting a bit frustrated.
This individual has been pressuring me to leave my husband for some time. (By the way, this was my 1st affair and his 2nd - He is also twice divorced). When I have seen him in the past few months, I must admit I am drawn to him. He definately had a kindness about him that I have not experienced with my husband or anyone else. In a way, I am afraid to make contact/see him again because of the attraction. I think I am on my way to healing myself and recovering from a difficult year (the year in which the affair occurred was hard on me - I felt guilty, confused, etc. Additionally, I am getting over a slight alcohol addiction.)
Is it worth it to meet with him to talk? Or should a phone call or voicemail suffice? I want to let him know I'm doing okay, but I don't want any set-backs on my recovery. Are there any other suggestions on methods of recovery/healing? I think this board is a good one ... because it sure is hard to leave a relationship behind.